Hi all, I'm posting for the first time after my mum's diagnosis with stage 4 lung cancer. I'm finding it pretty hard but I don't want my mum to know the extent of this. I didnt want her to know at all, but she does some, I could really do with an outlet with people who know the score. So that I can be there for my mum. I sure don't want her to have to be there for me. So here I am instead.

I am not sure how to act. My mum doesn't want to be treated like she is on the way out, which I can totally understand. I am trying, although it all seems to keep coming out all wrong. I would like to do something/anything to be of any help. I also recognise by her actions that she may want and very much need to take all of this in. She also seems to need a lack of interruptions so that she can rest. I would like to know how best to support what she wants and needs. There's a difficult balance in terms of wanting to give her the space that I think she wants and then doing the opposite. I don't know if that makes sense.

Anyway, it helped me to get that out and work through some of my thoughts. I'll leave it there for now. Any advice/tips from anybody who has any insight would be gratefully received. Thanks x