Brother's 1st chemo tomorrow (under a GA) , so scared

As anyone following my other posts will know my brother is severely mentally disabled and because of this getting him to have any tests or treatments at all is a big issue and means he has to have everything, including a simple blood test) under a general anaesthetic.

Because of this he will not be able to have enough treatments to definitely cure his stage 2B testicular cancer (he had the testicle and 9.5cm tumour removed in January, but his February CT scan showed it has metastisised to his lymph nodes)

Originally at a "best interests" meeting we were told the only way he could have ANY treatment would be by more than 20 general anaesthetics (to give him chemo and some radiotherapy) and as that was obviously not possible for anyone we were told/encouraged that only palliative care rather than treatment was for the best for him.

We were devastated, then a week later I got a call from the specialists from another hospital who were over seeing my brothers care (but who had not been at the meeting) to say they had reviewd him and disagreed with what we were told, we then travelled a long way to see these people and discuss him again, they agreed that as he would need general anaesthetic for every single treatment it may not be possible to give him enough treatments to definitely save his life, but felt they could definitely improve his worsening symtoms and pain by giving him some lower doses of chemo, 2 or maybe 3 depending how he copes, after the second dose (when they will also give him another CT scan) they are planning to review and decide whether to offer a 3rd dose of chemo or discuss the option of a single dose of radiotherapy (not an easy option as it would not be available under a general anaesthetic at the local hospital so he would need to be able to travel which is something he is struggling with, especially long journeys.

 

Tomorrow afternoon he is going into hospital under heavy sedation, he will then be given his general anaesthetic and then they will take blood to check his kidney function for the chemo dosage, he will then have the chemo infusion for an hour before being woken and sent home, I am terrified of the whole thing, him coping with going to hospital (which is a problem for him anyway), being calm enough to have the general anaesthetic, then of course coping with the actual chemo and side effects, because if he is unable to cope with any of it then the treatment will not continue further.

  • Hi Serendipity,

    I can uderstand how worried you are. It is a big thing for anyone going to hospital for treatment so for your brother must be a major problem. Seeing people he does not know or trust alone must be quite frightening for him. Hopefully, they may have someone who is able to calm your brothers fears for I have found cancer nurses a special breed who in my experiance are very caring and understanding.

    Please let us know how he gets on. Will be thinking of you and your brother;take care, best wishes to you both, Brian.

  • thanks Brian

    I feel like the worst sister not being there with him but its a long way away and as he will have 3 or 4 of his carehome carers as well as countless hospital staff around him so I know deep down me and my dad being there would probably make it harder and more scary for him as it would out of the norm.

     

  • Hi serendipity,

    You MUST not feel like the worst sister, for I can tell how much you care about your brother by what you write. I do know what you mean though, for when my mother was going to hospital for her breast cancer, I was working and couldnt get time off to go with her so I do sympathize as I felt rotten.

    I feel sure the staff will do their very best to keep him calm as they are used to peoples worries about treatment, Take care, Brian.