I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November 14 the days after my 29th birthday.it was a massive shock to everyone.luckily (everyone keeps saying this-lucky?!) I had a lumpectomy with clear margins & clear lymph nodes.radiotherapy for 4 weeks & tamoxifen & that should be it.So why am I struggling so much emotionally?I had to go back to work 3 weeks after surgery as I don't get sick pay & have rent/bills to pay.Im also still in quite a bit of pain.My boyfriend expects me to go back to my usual girlfriend duties ie house work/sex like nothing has happened.Yet I just want to stay in bed & cry.also not sleeping well.currently on Tramadol & zolpidem which is helping but don't want to get addicted.help!!
Hi Chloeh, welcome to the forum, but sorry you have a need to be here because of your breast cancer diagnosis. It must be difficult for you that your boyfriend doesn't seem supportive of you when you are having a hard time of it. Not to make excuses for him, but I'm assuming he's around your age and likely just doesn't know how to handle this with you. If you have friends and/or family who are supportive, then draw on that support to help you through this.. As for your boyfriend, educate him on cancer, or get a trusted male friend or family member to have a talk with him. He does need a wake-up call because this journey is hard enough to be on and we especially need the support of our loved ones around us.
It does sound like your cancer was found early on and that is a really good thing, so hoping everything turns out okay. You do need time to heal from the surgery though and you will have to make it clear that you are not ready to resume your usual activities right now. You are very young to have this diagnosis and that will likely be in your favor for a quick recovery and hopefully the end of this cancer thing.
Come back on the forum and let us know how things go for you. I'm sure others will respond to your post very soon.
