has anyone got any advice for me?

Hi Izzy,

I am so sorry to read about your Nan and what you and your family are going through right now.  I remember being a little younger than you, I think nine years old when my Nana died of breast cancer but I suppose I was lucky in that we lived in the same house so she was always there even though she was getting weaker.  I understand how painful this is and the best way to try and get through is to take strength from your family and give them strength in return.

I know you miss your grand parents and your Mum while she is away but visit this site regularly and there will always be someone to reply if you need to write your feelings down.

Look after yourself and good luck.

Garf.   

thank you Garf, i feel a little scared at times because i also lost my other nan to cancer, it makes it alot more real for me and its nice knowing i can talk about things on here.

thank you

You are welcome Izzy,

It would be an idea if you contact one of the moderators on here and they will put you in the direction of somewhere that give help and advice for young people like yourself.

All the best hun,

Garf.  

okay then, thanks

Hi Izzygilly

Welcome to Cancer Chat. You can talk to other young people with relatives who have cancer at two other websites: riprap and kidskonnected. It might also be worth talking to a teacher at your school so they know how you are feeling and can help support you.

If you have any questions you would like to ask, you could call our nurses on freephone: 0808 800 4040 from Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.

I hope this helps. Come back and talk to us how you are feeling anytime.

Best wishes to you and your nan,

Jane

thank you, i have already told teachers at my school because i have trouble sleeping and concentrating at school. i will try a website out, thanks for the help and support.

izzygilly x

Hi Izzygilly,

I am so sorry to read about your Nan. It's always so sad to find out someone you love has cancer especially when you have such a close rapport with her. I lost my Nan many years ago to breast cancer which she fought for several years. She always told me she wanted to see me grow up and get married and she achieved her aim. I do know all too well what's its like for I have also lost my mother and and aunt also to breast cancer. To see someone you love slowly slipping away and know there is nothing you can do to stop the spread of this evil disease made me feel so helpless. You suffer from so many different emotions, you end up feeling so confused and angry at times. Cancer just doesn't affect the patient, Izzy, It quickly envelopes the whole of the family and even close friends. It is often harder for people like you than it is for the patient for you are trying so hard to show a brave face to the world, but inside feeling absolutely devastated. So as Garf and Jane have said anytime you feel the need of help and support, please do not hesitate to post on here and people on here will do all they can for you.

Please take care, best wishes, Brian

thank you woodworm, im sorry to hear that you have lost so many relatives to cancer, you must be a very strong person. i am glad i joined this, it helps where i can talk to others about emotions like i cant in real life so much. its nice knowing i have distant support thanks