hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Great advice from Patricia there, Colly - she's absolutely right about keeping the chemo nurses posted with how you're feeling/sickness etc. They can give you other anti-sickness drugs for this time and adjust them accordingly for next time. Don't be frightened to give them or your breast nurse a call.
Just keep focused. You've managed to tick one chemo off the list, so well done you. I can tell you, that when all the chemos are done and out of your system, it feels GREAT, so keep going!
How ya doing? I hear you had a great time on holiday, if not a little eventful!
I agree with you when you have your last chemo and you walk out of the unit, it's like a great weight has been lifted from your shoulders and the feeling is wonderful.
I start my rads on Tuesday 29th June for 3 weeks. By all accounts it's a lot easier than the chemo. When do you start yours and do you have far to travel? I have about a forty minute each way car journey, my mum has offered to take me (a lot better than the estimated two and a half hours by the hospital transport, no wonder people get tired!)
thanks for the advice, i did ring the unit earlier and nurse said because i was sick about half an hour after taking the tabs, some of it would be absorbed, so just to take next lot as normal and see how i go, i think its cause i cant eat in morning, she did say even to take a glass of milk before steroids to line my stomach, so i'll try that and see how it goes. Just the injection to get when joh comes home at lunch time, that'll be a laugh, it better not be sore or he's sacked lol. Keep you posted. Col x
I'm exactly the same day as you to start radio for 3 weeks. The hospital is about 40 mins away, and I've plenty family and friends who have offered to help with transport. There's also a local charity that provide door to door free transport, but I'd rather leave them to the people without help and who live further away. The hospital covers a huge rural area. What a great service that charity provides.
I'll be finished on 20th July - more sparkles on that day, a few weeks to recover, then back to work in Sept. Time then, I think, to try and put it all behind me and move on - funnily enough, that's the very subject I've chosen to write about in the blog today. Nice to hear you've been reading it, and yes we had a great hol - just what we all needed!
Good luck for Tuesday, Patricia - and Colly - well done for sorting out stuff with your nurses - in a few days you'll start to pick up, so just dig in there.
I just want to thank you all for giving me inspiration and hope, I have read and re-read all your chats and whilst I'm terribly sad there are other women going through such pain It is very helpfull to see how they cope.
I myself am 42yrs old and have had secondary breast cancer inside a year after having a lumpectomy Feb 2009. In May this year I had to have a mastectomy 1 week after my return from my honeymoon(not a great way to start married life hey!) anyway I was fortunate enough to have a reconstruction at the same time using the Lflap, the last three weeks have been an emotional rollercoaster for both myself and my husband. I seem to cry so easily at the moment which is most unlike me and now I have been told I will be starting fec chemo in 2 weeks and will definately loose my long blonde locks!! why should that be the worst thing .....how vain well reading your notes have really helped me to come to terms with what is going on so thankyou all so very much and I would very much like to chat to each and every one of you as you all sound such strong and wonderful women.
Really nice to hear from you, but so sorry to hear your news. I take it that the photo is of you at your wedding! You look absolutely fab - I can see why you'll be upset to lose your hair - but it'll come back! Having finished FEC chemo 5 weeks ago, my hair is making a brave comeback and is now 3mm long. My consultant (a lovely young Indian chap) kept saying to me 'this is all temporary ma'am, all temporary.' He's right. The chemo is hard work, but you'll get through it, and your hair will return!
I'm slightly younger than you (41!) and have written a blog throughout my chemo - its really helped me get through, and has also helped to keep all my friends across the globe keep up to date with what's going on. I can recommend keeping some sort of diary or blog - it has helped me to stay focused. If you'd like to have a look at mine, the address is www.keepyerhairon.blogspot.com
I hope my little stories demonstrate that, whilst hard at times, life doesnt have to stop when you've been diagnosed with breast cancer - you can just get on with it, and hopefully in your case, enjoy your new life as a wife!
I hope your new husband is a good support to you, and that your chemo goes ok. Keep us posted and we'll help in any way that we can.
Best wishes to you
shents
PS Don't worry about the crying thing - its getting a bit of a joke in my family now with me just crying at the drop of a hat....oh, and then there's also the shouting thing - I've been quite good at that too...all normal I'm told!
Thankyou for your quick response, its so lovely to be able to talk to people that have been through or are going through what I am, all at once I don't feel alone or totally crazy My husband is struggling at the moment he doesnt now how to cope with my crying at apparently nothing! and feels he is being blamed all the time which I have assured him he isn't, but night time seems to be the worse time for me and I feel like I've cheated him out of a so called beautiful bride!!.
Now he has a wife with lob sided breasts and about to go bald, whilst I realise this is irrational thinking I cant help but feel that way at times.
I do have good days where I can smile and I try really hard to be positive around him and my family and this is definately helping being able to talk over my thoughts and fears.
Hello, we all have times like these..... dont be so hard on yourself, you are going through a difficult time at the moment but it will get easier as you heal and get the all clear which i am sure you will.
I love your picture by the way, you are a beautiful lady.
Just wanted to wish you all the best with your chemo and the actually process of your hair coming out is worse than when it is out. I too am 42 and had fec, undergone mastectomy and reconstruction and have very unequal breasts at the moment but hey ho. I'm currently waiting for uplift(hehehe) and reduction on the other one. There are a great group of women and men who are going through similar / same here and I'm sure someone will be able to identify / assist in helping answer any worries.
Just wanted to wish you all the best. Chin up and stay strong...Liz
