hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
I would love to join you in a small tipple, so I shall raise my glass now to you and all the lovely ladies and gentlemen on this site and wish you all a very merry christmas and a happy HEALTHY new year xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Dearest Caroline, words fail me right now, just when I think people can't stoop any lower someone like your husband comes along and does this.
Sadness fills me right now as you are such a wonderful and beautiful lady who deserves so much better.
I pray he will see sense and stand strong by your side and if not then I pray god gives you the strength to get through these difficult times., Im sending you much love and know this! - you have a strong network of cyber friends out here rooting for you and sending you much love and great big cyber hugs.
I shall raise my glass to you Caroline and wish you with all my heart a merry christmas and a happy healthy new year xxxxxxxxxxxx
Caroline, I'm so sad to hear this news, I really hope you're ok babe, youre in my thoughts and prayers, chin up, love to you and your daughter, I hope you have a lovely Christmas for you and her. Sorry don't know what else to say xx
OH !!!!!*******++F<>**** This is just too much Caz !!!
Your head must be a total jumble.Words fail me,which as you know is not like me.Stay in there babes,we will always be here when you need to scream and shout.I will make sure yours is a double.
I just wanted to post you my good wishes as it is surely a hell of a storm that has decended on your head.I chose not to have reconstruction partly because i felt there was a limit to what i could cope with and its not like you cant change your mind further down the line.I hope when your man has had some time away he will realise what a bad choice he is making and how lucky he is to have you and frankly if he dosent you are well rid of him.
caroline, take heart. About five maybe six years ago, on losing my dad and having saved a lot of money for a house, i thought i had everything, good man good life and blah blah with just sadness nursing my sister through cancer having just lost dad. One morning, out of the blue, a day we were going to view the house we wanted, he threw a fit so to speak, accused my son of stealing sseveral hundred pounds out of his wallet and walked out. The kids and i were devasted. I went to peices. I found out a few weeks later, he had taken personal sentitmental stuff from the house and a huge huge wad from the savings account and there was nothing i could do about it. He hadn't paid rent for more than six months, nor council tax and they were all in my name, but all i was eveer told was that everything was under control and up to date. more fool me for not checking. Anyway, after a period of depression, i came through and had a new outlook. I really thought i was made up for life and we SEEMED to be so much in love after five years that it took a fair while to get over the emotional stuff. however, a friend said to me that although i had been treated bad, the second person in my life was better than the first and the third better than the second. She said that we only learn as we progress. When i was still thousands and thousands of pounds in debt, a single parent with four kids, one with chronic asthma in and out of hosp and one with aspergers, i thought life would never get better. But you know what, i kept plodding on and here i am today with many blessings. I have a guy i have been with for five years through thick and thin, he drives me mad sometimes but no matter what gets thrown at us, he is there, supports the kids, keeps us sane and focused, and he even went to work to pay my bills! The children grew and went off and did their own things, the asthma greatly improved and my son sorted his life out. I then got beautiful grandchildren.
The emotional feelings - scars, fears, treatments and all of that on top of this awful news must be so difficult for you right now. But as always out of the dark comes a light, and here you have a whole bunch of people who will help you every step of the way to building a NEW and BRIGHTER future as and when you feel ready to take small steps. When life gets that bloody rotten, there is only one way to go, and that is onwards and upwards, and there are so many hands reaching to you right now and so many cyber hugs and warm wishes - you must remember that at all times and come talk when you need.
So I don't say merry christmas to you Caz, because I know it won't be no matter how hard you try, but i will say that 2011 will change you and your life, and believe me, it can better and brighter than you ever thought possible as you put 2010 and its crap behind you.
