hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Good news Mammogram - all clear. Another step over, and only 5 more herceptins to go. I told the Consultant about my finger joints aching and he said to try glucosumate tablets, so I will give it a go and let you know if it works.
Thanks to you all for reminding me what I've been through and not to be so impatient.
Azalea - I would say that my breast is only just feeling more normal, and then it got squashed yesterday! But it is ok today.
Good news on the mamogram. i am so pleased for you. I have an mri tomorrow - as i have had neck/upper pain pain for a while but it is not cancer related. Just the thought of checks and doctors makes me squirm now! But I have my oncologist on side to get my tooth fixed, and he has sent a letter to the plastic surgeon as the treated breast is wonky and dippy and smaller than the other. Guess that is one thing - the doctors speed you through when you are on their radar.
Colly, i know exactly how you feel wanting everything to be as it was before, and I had also seen a counsellor like caroline. Please consider getting some help with one of these lovely people because no matter how good your partner is or your friends, this horrible disease affects you in so many ways and talking to someone who can talk you through and reassure you of your progress makes the most enromous difference. I cannot tell you how much difference it made to me, depression is gone, mood is lifted and i feel so much better.
by the way ladies, meopause and dryness - REPLENS, it is amazing the difference it makes, the hair growth (called FAST) shampoo is definately working.Give it a go!
Anne, that's brilliant news about the clear mammogram.... I am so pleased for you honey.
I will have to agree with Linda (lil Sis) that counciller made all the difference to me.... I think the main reason being... I was allowed to cry.... I don't mean a few tears, I mean really cried.... in fact on my first appointment I sobbed for the whole hour.... I cried because I had cancer... I cried because I lost both my breasts... because my husband was a cheating scumbag.... for the woman I used to be... for being so sick of being poked and prodded.... for feeling so depressed... In fact i even cried because i felt like crying all the time..... and the counciller told me..."IT WAS NORMAL"... It was so nice to finally let it all out instead of trying to be strong for the kids, for my ex and for everybody else.
My counciller is situated in the same suite of the hospital that they do the chemo in...... so she is very familiar with cancer... in fact she is a cancer counciller.
Ask your doctor or your breast nurse to refer you........ I always swore i would never see a counciller.... Never again.... I would recommend it to anyone because it really helped me.
Do you all realise that Lou and Rose would be so proud of us all..... helping each other.... helping new members..... being a family
We are their legacy.... they helped us, we help others, and they in turn will go on to help other people.
I once had a phone call from a friend, who's wife had been diagnosed with breast cancer, saying she really needed to talk to somebodywho understood.... so I rang her.... after 90 minutes of talking we were saying our goodbye and she told me how much my phone call had helped her... so I told her that it had helped me too..... and she said she didn't understand how it could help me..... so I said, "Because now there is a reason.... If I was able to help you, then there is a reason to me having the cancer"
Think about it..... when you first get diagnosed, you think WHY ME?...... helping somebody else deal with the same puts it into perspective a bit dont you think?
take care all
Love always
Caz xxxxxxxxxxxxx
p.s..... The wedding last week was brilliant, we had such a laugh. xxx
Hi girls/Tony, hope you are all fine and dandy, Caz if speaking to a councillor helped then thats great, I know people who swear by it and you have been through loads with your ex, and between that and your mastectomy you must have felt so down. Nina glad you had a great holiday, I'm off to Cabo Roig on 25th with my 9 girl cousins (who are all sisters) my aunt has 9 girls and 4 boys, ranging from 54 down to 34, when I was a little girl i thought my aunt was fat, but she was just always pregnant, Irish catholic, so she obviously didnt believe in contraception, anyway we were all brought up together and I cant wait to get away and have some fun, I had a choice of going to salou with John and his son to go to theme parks, water parks and Barcelona football stadium to watch a game, or to lie at a pool at a villa with my 9 cousins lol.
I'm doing great, feeling very positive about life and trying to eat healthily and get my swimming done 3 times a week but its only been twice a week recently, my little puppy Lilly has also been keeping me busy with house training and lots of walks, but at least shes sleeping till 7.30 instead of 4am (which wasnt good). Ive cut my hours down in work and now only do 9-3 mon-fri which is great, I dont feel as tired because of that. We really need to set a date and all meet up, when suits everybody? why dont you all decide when you cant go and we'll work it from there?
Anyway its 9am, just back from walking Lilly, I'm back in bed with laptop and I might even go back to sleep for an hour then Ive got an afternoon of shopping for some holiday clothes with my friend and a bit of lunch too.
Well Ladies and Tony ( where are you ) Just popped in to say that Chemo and operation Tumor and lymph nodes out of the way.... Find out on 26th the pathology results Then onto Radiotherepy ITs been a long hard year But I hope it wll be worth it. Hope all you loverly ladies ( n Tony) are all doing great xxxxxxxxxxx Take care all
hi, i have not got breast cancer, but my mom has and she has had in the last 4 weeks a lump removed then her full breast. Could someone please help me, i need help. i know that i do not feel what she is goin through, but even each time, i try to talk to her about it, she shuts up and anythin that goes wrong, she goes off the deep end and throws things around, is this normal. Help.
you r in the right place to chat anytime xxx she will b very confused as u will. but we have all been there xx tell us a bit about yourself , try and get u mum to read thru some of these old posts we have come such long way xx it is so hard on u all. she is just going thru the angry guilty feelings .how old r u ? please let us help u xxxx
big big hugs please know u r not alone xx u can also chat to her cancer nurse as she can xxx
