Hi. It looks like this discussion thread has been going a long time and i hope i will be able to join the community here. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just after xmas and have had a mastectomy last week. I have a secondary tumor in my hip and possibly in my head so will have to face chemo and radiotherapy although I dont know the details as yet. I would love to make friends on here who i can both support and find support from on this journey. I have 2 grown up children and they have surprised me recently as to how supportive they can be. It certainly is a case of role reversal in my house. Chassis x x

Hi Chassis

Welcome to the place no-one wants to be.Hope you are coping with the mastectomy and glad to see you have support at home.I had mastectomy 4 years ago and have recurrance in the lymph glands in my neck and chest .I have been on chemo for 2 years to contain it and like you have 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren ,so plenty of reasons to fight on.Hope you have a good medical team looking after you.What part of the world do you live in?We are a well scattered lot on here.

Stay strong.

Rose xxx

Hi Liitlesis

congratulations on your good news, I bet you feel relieved?

Its very very sad about Louise, she was such an inspiration to us all.

Hope everyone on here is doing ok, weather lovely here in Scotland, going to go for a nice walk.

Take Care Col xxx

I am truly saddened by the news, I sit here crying for a lady that I have never met but has been such an inspiration to myself aswell as everyone else, god bless her family and may god look after his new angel. Much love to you all.

Lee xxxxxxx

Never ever feel guilty about good news We all need a boost after the weekend so it was lovely to hear about you.Keep up the good work !!!!

Rose xxx

I was sat the other day watching a movie with my daughter...... it's called "the last song" and stars Miley Cyrus...... pretty good film about a girl who loses her father to cancer..... when suddenly Micky (my daughter) turned to me, with tears rolling down her face and said "Mum, you're not going to die, are you?"...... Movie off... "where did that come from".... so we sat down and had a long talk about my cancer..... and cancer in general

At her tender age of 15, she has never known anyone that has had cancer and NOT died..... it doesn't help that my mum has "gasto intestinal stromal tumours" and is terminal....... Micky thought i was just not telling her to protect her.

So I bought her onto this site and showed her all your posts....... telling her "all these ladies have fought cancer... some are still fighting..... but we are all still here, helping each other with our story's"

I also explained that there is no way they would even consider reconstruction if the cancer was still around...... she had a lot of questions, and I answered them all.... I also explained that IF the cancer comes back, she will be the first one to know... but we are not going to dwell on it..... we are not going to wait for it..... we are going to LIVE.... and enjoy life... and she seemed a lot happier.

So I would like to say a big THANK YOU to all of you ladies (and Tony) because it was because you all posted on here that I was able to show my daughter that some of us win the fight..... and some of us carry on fighting.

I know a lot of us are still reeling from losing Louise..... but when this happened I thought I would share it with you..... because they always say, you dont know what goes on in a child's mind...... but kid logic...... people have cancer and they die..... Maybe my experience will help somebody else with children have a bit of insight in how their child is thinking... sometime's when we think that things are finally  calming down, with hospital visits and treatment etc...... a child thinks that no news and no more treatment means we have given up.... my daughter may be 15, but she still needed that reassurance that everything was still good.

Take care everybody and keep fighting...... Louise would want you all to.

Love always

Caz xxxxx

How is everybody doing?

it has been a week nearly since anyone posted on here and I just wanted to say hi and ask how you all were?

I am going on holiday on saturday... nothing fancy, just a week in Brighton with my daughter.

She deserves a break and this will help keep both our minds off the impending surgery.

I find it very hard to believe that it was 7 months ago I was diagnosed...... so much has happened since then.

but 2 weeks tomorrow i will be having reconstructive surgery.... I am so excited... (and a bit scared too)

I hope everybody is ok

Love always

Caz xxx

Hi Caz, leonie was just saying today on facebook that we havent been on for a while, think we;re all a bit stunned after Lou, glad youre feeling a bit more upbeat and that youre getting away with your daughter for a few days, it will do you the world of good doll, Hope everyone else is doing well, im back at work, tired but glad to be back to some kind of normality. Speak soon xxx

Hi Colly, Hi Caz and a big Hi to everyone else, I am guilty of feeling sorry for myself after Lou passing away, I guess I was reminded how precious our time is and how lucky we are to still be here. Caz Im really pleased for you and it looks like I shall be having my reduction on my righrt breast on 26th April so we can both feel good this summer I hope everyone else is feeling better and all looking forward to a wonderful summer xxxxxxxx

lots and lots of love Lee

P.S my Hair!!!  OMG I look like Art Garfunkel at the moment....tight little curls and getting bushy lol xx

Hi Lee great news re reduction, you'll be all ready for summer. My hair is the same lol, really bushy and wavy, had it cut twice but think it needs done again, im wearing it exactly as youres is in your pic. chat soon. ps you not got facebook, we all seem to be catching upon there more now x

brilliant news Lee

And your surgery is only 6 days after mine.... here's to a great summer and a lovely golden tan. Xxx

I hope everybody else is ok.... I must admit, I think we all felt a bit sorry for ourselves after losing Lou... I know I did, Like Lee says, it makes you realise how precious life is.... so the best thing we can do for Lou is to LIVE.... make the most of every single second we have, because you don't know what is just round the corner.

Right ladies (and Tony) this is me for a week... off to Brighton first thing in the morning for a week of being pampered and relaxing... I will check in as soon as I get back.... but I hope everybody has a lovely week

Love always

Caz xxxxxx

brilliant news Lee

And your surgery is only 6 days after mine.... here's to a great summer and a lovely golden tan. Xxx

I hope everybody else is ok.... I must admit, I think we all felt a bit sorry for ourselves after losing Lou... I know I did, Like Lee says, it makes you realise how precious life is.... so the best thing we can do for Lou is to LIVE.... make the most of every single second we have, because you don't know what is just round the corner.

Right ladies (and Tony) this is me for a week... off to Brighton first thing in the morning for a week of being pampered and relaxing... I will check in as soon as I get back.... but I hope everybody has a lovely week

Love always

Caz xxxxxx

Have a great holiday x

Hi ladies

Sorry I've not been on for a while. I do keep checking the page but been a little lost for what to say really. Can't believe we lost our first lady from this page. Can't believe it was Lou. To let you all know though, the funeral was lovely. Everybody in bright colours n loads of people went to pay their respects. Everybody did her proud. One of lou's relatives told me about it. also lots of family n friends there to support the kids n Nigel. So good news really.

I'm doing ok no change with me. How are you getting on now Rose? I hope your arm is better by now. How about the rest of you ladies? Let's get this page up n running again n helping others get through their journey. It's what we do isn't it!

I'm going up to Brighton for a few days to visit jons family but will be in touch again soon.

Love to you all. Leonie xxxxxx

hi leonie

nice to see you again,and see you have found your mojo because we all need a little time in the wings,and i am glad you are ok,so enjoy your time in brighton,and welcome back.

  jeff x

Hi bebes,

Glad you are having a break,hope the weather stays warm for you. The arm has improved thanks and I feel brighter again but still decrepid but much better than Christmastime.Onwards and upwards !!!

Lou has certainly shocked us and on the other thread David has lost his fight as well so 2 in one month.Far too much pain because of this.

Hope you have a great time sweetheart.

Speak soon.

Rose xx

Hi Ladies (and jeff )

I've asked a lady called Jemima to come and join you here on this thread as she is in need of help, advice and support for her daughter - recently diagnosed with BC and secondaries to the bone.

Her thread is here  http://cancerchat.cancerresearchuk.org/message/32726#32726

I've given her the link for this one - because it's where people tend to hang out and offer the most constructive first hand advice on BC.

I really hope she pops over because I know you girls will help her through this confused time.

Even though I don't comment on your thread I always read what you are all getting up to and follow your stories with interest. It's lovely to see the way you all support each other

Hugs

Dizzie xxxx

Hi Dizzie

I have just read your post and immediatley went to the thread of Jemima's and read it, I really do hope she does come on here because without the help andf support from all the other ladies and gents on here I do not know hwat I would of done, especially in my dark days.

I will drop Jemima a post on her thread as well to ask her to join us and read all the posts on here regarding this awful subject.

Ladies and Gents how are you all? I have not been on for a little while as had so much going on, the update to my niece is she has been told she needs a bone marrow transplant, all her siblings have been tested but the best match they got was 50 percent so now all the family are being tested except myself. I have been told I cannot get tested, hard to except when you have a 28 year old niece with luikiemia needing a bone marrow transplant.

I have also been to the oncologist regarding my hands as 2 fingers on each hand have really started to ache and want to  lock all the time, has anyone else experianced this? I havee to go and see a Nurologist first to see if the Chemo has damaged my nerve endings and then they will take it from there. It souinds bad me moaning about my fingers when so many more ladies are just starting the fight, I cannot believe it was a year ago I first came on here how time passes.

So glad to see so may of the originals now going of on holiday and getting their lifes back, it does make me smile.

Caroline good luck with the op will be thinking of you, Tony I have followed some of your posts as you never really seem to come into our chats very often now, and all the rest of you lovely ladies

Take Care and speak to you all soon

Littlesis

I am new and have just had my 3rd dose of chemo Do these side effects get any better.. My mouth is sore Im carry nausea around all day even with pills n potions I just never seem to get any relief UNTIL a few days before next dose is due...Any little secrets you got out there for some relief would be greatfully received Thnx xx

Jane

hi jane

i think you should ask to try another anti sickness drug and that might help with the nausea,as for does it get better well you just hope,but i know that when i was having my chemo tablets,i could not wait to take the last dose,but hopefully there will be good news for you when the chemo is over so try to stay strong and as positive as you can.

jeff x

Hi Jane, welcome to our forum, sorry its not under better circumstances. I really think you should ask to get your medicaltion changed as I wasnt sick except the day afyer my first session of chemo and then I was fine, is it fec-t youre having? If so just be aware that when your chemo changes over to the T on the 4th session, thats the toughest, Im sure most women will agree, it just makes you feel really tired and all your bones really sore. Good Luck.

Leonie, enjoy your holiday and Rose glad youre feeling better, Im still doing well.

Take care Col xx

littlesis, how are you? long time no hear lol, think you and me joined this forum about the same time, Good luck for your niece I really hope she finds a match, hope youre doing well. Lotsa love Col xx