Hi. It looks like this discussion thread has been going a long time and i hope i will be able to join the community here. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just after xmas and have had a mastectomy last week. I have a secondary tumor in my hip and possibly in my head so will have to face chemo and radiotherapy although I dont know the details as yet. I would love to make friends on here who i can both support and find support from on this journey. I have 2 grown up children and they have surprised me recently as to how supportive they can be. It certainly is a case of role reversal in my house. Chassis x x

Hi Chassis

Welcome to the place no-one wants to be.Hope you are coping with the mastectomy and glad to see you have support at home.I had mastectomy 4 years ago and have recurrance in the lymph glands in my neck and chest .I have been on chemo for 2 years to contain it and like you have 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren ,so plenty of reasons to fight on.Hope you have a good medical team looking after you.What part of the world do you live in?We are a well scattered lot on here.

Stay strong.

Rose xxx

hi rose

still not on much which makes me realise how poorly you are! not that you sounded great anyway. wishing you well n sending all my love n strength to you. will always be here for you n think of you lots. you are such a lovely person, a real lady! you get well soon.

i was told the other day that my nerve pain n muscle pain may never go away. i might not ever get back to how i was. but i still think myself lucky. lucky to be here, have my family, have my friends, n have you lot, that are soo much part of my life!

unfortunately, some of us have not been so lucky. nina had to have her knee op, n just the thought of it makes me cringe. bon jovi aka donna has just had her op to remove cancer from her ovaries, a hysterectomy. both are recovering. then we have louise, suffering from headaches n dizziness, she has a scan which shows cells in her brain. this life can be so unfair!! shes half way through radio now n is suffering with major headaches n is very low. as you all can imagine. i cant however, imagine having radio on your brain! cant imagine how it feels for her. cant imagine how she copes with 4 children especially when she just set a date for her wedding. she asked if i would let you know, its just been hard to write this when you care so much n are at the end of treatment. i feel guilty not telling you before cos your thoughts, prayers n good wishes would comfort her a lot.

you all have so much heart n seem to know what to say, at just the right time. n im sure you will now.

a friend of mine sent me a card today. it read,

i like to think that everyone in life is a duck, bobbing around on the surface looking serene, but underneath their legs are going like mad trying to keep up with what gets in their way. i think of you as a swan, gracious in your battle, yet still paddling. keep those legs moving mate and you'll get to calmer waters.

love to you all, leonie xxxxx

Lol Lisa I laughed out loud at this, especially as at the moment Ive got an ipad for sale on ebay, just hope people dont think its the same as yours lol x

Hi babes,

I,m so sorry the pain clinic didnt give you better news,after all youve been through you deserve to have a break.I hope things will improve in time as the treatment  eventually wears off completely.

Oh what a blow for Louise.The radio just HAS to work !!! A man in the hospital bed next to my husband a couple of years ago had a brain tumour and had radio and it shrank to a tiny amount and has not grown back since so I hope and pray this will happen for Louise as well.Please wish her all the luck in the world..Far too many people hurt by this horrid thing.

Take care everyone and roll on the sunshine !!

Rose xxx

hi rose

you didnt mention how you are getting on now. hows the arm now? are you feeling much better? i hope you are getting better. think you are definately a swan!

good news with tony! thank god its shunk a bit n just hope it carries on this way. donna is allowed to go home today. at least she has a better chance of sleeping at home, just know shes gonna over do it though! had a message from lou yesterday n she said she was feeling bit better. yes youre right, she has to get better! treatment is getting better all the time. i have hope!

i decided that im going to do the race for life with my mum. we just want to raise as much as we can so they can do more research n find a cure. or even just be able to manage it. as long as people can live n not be so poorly then this race will be worth it! we shall, however be walking n do realise that we probably wont move for days after. but our husbands realise that n are happy to look after us. bless them! we might be crawling towards the end!! my mum has had 4 ops on her knee n each one just made it worse n she really will suffer from pain. but we are determined to finish the race. she has seen what cancer does since she was 9 years old n lost her mum at 10 years old. then her dad. then me, surviving it.

i dont know if im allowed to show our just giving pages, can somebody let me know?? obviously, all help is much appreciated.

love to all of you, n heres to fighting back!!

love leonie xxxxxxxx

Hi All,

I am so sorry to hear that some of you  are going through such a hard time at the moment... i want you all to know that you are in my heart and in my prayers.

I have also decided to do the race for life...... but I was inspired my my daughter.... I will tell you about it.

My 15 year old daughter and her friend wanted to do the race for life this year, but were totally devastated when they saw that under 16's could only enter if they were part of a group.... She didn't think that was very fair, so Micky (my daughter) and Cappi (her friend) started to try and find a loophole..... but unfortunately, the rules are very strict there.... And it started me thinking... These two 15 year old girls want to do the race for life (because of me) and raise money for womens cancer and they're struggling.... They are not hanging around on street corners.... they are not mugging people..... and they are not trying to cause trouble....... so I went to see cappi's mum (who runs a pub in town) we did a bit of brainstorming over a couple of coffee's and this is what we came up with........ Next weekend, Cappi is stopping with my daughter for the weekend, so they are going to make a poster inviting the women of the pub to join our group and run the race for life with us.... we are going to get as many people as possible and we are going to leave sponser forms in the pub too.

So far our group consists of Me, Micky and Cappi....... I will let you know how many others join..... But I am very proud of my daughter.... she hasn't just sat back and felt sorry for herself..... she doesn't bleat about the injustice of our situation...... she stands up to be counted.... she inspired me to get off my bum and do this race with her..... i might walk it... I might be the last one finished.... but I WILL DO IT..... because of my daughter.

Just writing that has bought a few tears because I realise that I am one of the lucky ones..... I am a survivor.

Tomorrow.... on the 15th March 2011.... I will have been cancer free for 6 months.

Love always

Caz Xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

hi to everyone on here ( there are too many of you to list !!)

Good on you Caz and your daughter, you go girls!!!!!!!!!

Anne

xx

Hi Caroline

You must be very proud of your daughter.It sounds like you are cut from the same cloth.

Hi Leonie

I am sorry to hear people are having such a bad time.I cant imagine what rads on the brain are like so this may be a useless suggestion but i have planned my wedding at a  resterant  in the morning because i throught even  if they had to wheel me in i could still go and while i may not be able to give my guests a party they could have lovely food.I have found it useful to have someting to work towards.I hope she gets her wedding.

I loved the duck card,

hi grumpy

though dont think you are grumpy. i like you! grumpy is mardy. thanks for your thoughts, am sure she will have her wedding. shes in hospital at mo but dont know anymore. when is your wedding? would like to throw some webfetti.

love leonie xx

hi grumpy

though dont think you are grumpy. i like you! grumpy is mardy. thanks for your thoughts, am sure she will have her wedding. shes in hospital at mo but dont know anymore. when is your wedding? would like to throw some webfetti.

love leonie xx

Hi Leonie

I hope things are good with you.I like Madry what a good word. I am sorry to hear she is stuck in hospital,hopefully she will be running free soon.

Thankyou for the webfetti,i  would like imaginary rose petals.