Hi Debbie and also Kal,

Just hoping you are both getting on OK and that you are both still making progress.;)

How are the fingernails Kal?I remember having plasters on my nails to stop them coming off.Its strange but I had forgotten that.This whole thing is like childbirth.Awful at the time but you forget later on.

Hope the legs are improving Debbie (thats my daughters name )

Good luck girls.

Rose xxx

Hi Kal,

How are things with you - let us know when you have a moment....No pressure

Much Love

Tony xx

Dear all,

I hope you don't mind if I come into this conversation? I am one of those who has quietly read and considered what has been said here and I have found it quite helpful, especially as I am trying to find a way to help two people very close to me.

To put you in the picture, I personally do not have breast cancer, but two of my unassociated friends do and one of them has only just been diagnosed as in the later stage that has spread to her bones. I know how devastating this dreadful enemy can be and what effects it has on personal family and friends - I've been there. It has been such a shock to them and their family and friends.

I've seen their expectations and fears, chemo extremes and hair loss and in all, I wish that somehow I could help in some way, and as an outsider of this disease I wish I knew how to encourage and support more, especially when at their lowest in mind, body and spirit.

For those close to me in the past, I have tried to encourage the sufferer to be strong and fight with all ones might, to speak to this disease as an intruder, a thief, and refuse to give in to its powers. At the same time, I have encouraged them to look at the things in life that once they took for granted. The flight of a bird; the wonder of a bee; the beauty of flowers and trees; the rolling clouds across an evening sky; the awsome power of the sea; the stars in the night sky and the wonder of the universe. But I still don't feel it's enough. If I could take some of the suffering away, in some way, I feel at least I have helped bring peace and hope, but I still don't feel it's enough.

So - I will go on - encouraging where I can. So fight that fight with all you have and don't give in yes! Whether we win the war or not - but may I encourage you all to take time to look away from the pain - the chemo - the fear and remember to enjoy the beauty that we do have while we can. For whether ill or not, we all leave this earth at some point and we all leave our mark in some way and that is what we are remembered for yes?

My best wishes to you all. Wini

What a lovely message Wini !!I think you will find you have helped a lot more than you think.It is true,I have noticed the simple things more and cant see why people get so worked up over trivial things

Its not how long we live that counts but how we live.Keep encouraging ,you do it so well:love:

Rose xxxx

mine has returned to my bones also and im so afraid dont know what to think or do just feel so alone and lonely having chemo but feel so low and down today x

Hi Rose/Wini

Here's a link to a song that I played a lot during my treatment - its by Jack Savoretti. Not only does he cheer you up with how gorgeous he is, but the words to the song are perfect - 'Its not about the time that you have...its how you cry and how you laugh, who you love and how you mean it...'

Have a listen. I think its exactly what you're on about, Wini.

Shents x

Hello Teresa51.... i am so sad to meet you here on this cancer forum, but happy to be of any help and support to you.

You do understandbly feel low at the moment, you have so much to come to terms with.... i am in a similar way to you but with lung cancer that has spread to my bones, and elsewhere too.

The pain was the worst part for me, untill i began treatment, i hope you are recieving good pain relief...

Good night, i will look out for your posts, love Debbie.x

Hi there,

We seem to be in the same boat............

I feel very sick and scared. I live alone and have no family and no close friends. Will write more next time, not feeling so good.

Hi

So sorry, I haven`t been on this site for a long time and have just seen your post.

RealIy sorry to hear you feel alone with all this but believe me you`re not on your own. There are many of us going through this awful thing and we all have times when we feel too scared to either talk or to think positively. Impossible as it may seem at times, it does get better. I find I need to allow myself to have those `down times` to be able to regain my strength and carry on.

I hope you can find the strength to come back on and talk a little more.

Best wishes

Kal