Hi just read your post, everything you've said so far matches myself, found a lump in my right breast, Ive had lump and lymph nodes removed (so kept the majority of my breast) ive to go back fri to get pathology results back, so fingers crossed Ive caught it early and it hasnt spread, you must be really frightened, I know i am, but its only natural, ive to have chemo and radiotherapy which havent started yet, im sure i'll find all this out friday, I too have a fantastic partner and 2 amazing daughters, keep me posted and keep your chin up, we have to put our lives in the hands of the experts and hope to God they are going to cure us of this horrible disease. Col x

Hi Col,

Thank you for replying to my post. I was beginning to regret putting it on as I watched the `viewing` figures go up and yet no-one had responded.

It sounds like you`ve caught yours early as you`ve had surgery first ~ I believe that`s a good sign! I know a few people who have had a breast tumour which had spread to their lymph, they`ve all had lump and nodes removed too and although they were both cancerous it hadn`t spread anywhere else.

I`ll be thinking of you on Friday and will keep everything crossed.

Chemotherapy isn`t as frightening as you might think. Unfortunately, I was the only one having it when I went for my first session, I had hoped there would be others there, however, the nurses were lovely and I was offered a `cold cap`. If you haven`t heard of it it`s a cap which is fitted tightly to your head and has very cold air circulated into it, this freezes the hair follicles and for some people can reduce hair loss. It didn`t work for me because I had such thick hair I think it insulated my head!! But if you`re offered it, it might be worth a try.

It must be very difficult when you have children, how are they coping? Children can be so resilient and i`m sure they will be your motivation and strength.

Thanks again for replying and hope you`ll keep in touch. Kal x

Hi Kal

I'm really sorry to hear about your news, and I can see why you must be feeling so low. I think it's everybody's worst fear/nightmare that the cancer has spread or come back somewhere else. You need to try really hard to hang on in there and get through everything your doctors chuck at you.

I havent experienced what you've had, but I've just finished 6 FEC chemos for breast cancer, and about to start radiotherapy soon. I'm told I'll be ok after that - but hey, no-one can say that really can they.

Please don't feel alone - keep posting your progress on here - people may not respond, but as you say, they'll read your story and they'll be with you in spirit.

A positive attitude really does help you get through things, and my little escape has been through tapping away on this little keyboard - either on here or on my blog. It helps me to clear my mind, and get everything out of my system. Try and find a little escape route yourself - this is a good place to start - so well done you for telling us your tale - we're all with you, so keep us posted.

Take care

shents x

Hi Shents

Thanks so much for your reply, it really has helped to hear from others in similar situations. How did you find the Chemo? I`ve just had my 2nd FEC yesterday and seem to be coping well ~ just a little gassy indigestion for 3/4 days which I have some medication for. I have another Fec and then I start 3 sessions of Taxotere along with the Zomeetar for my bones. Did you get very tired towards the end? Am just wondering how much work I will realistically be able to do. I`m self employed which is good as it means I can arrange it around appointments and how I`m feeling day to day. But the draw back is that I`m on my own all day.

Really pleased to hear you`ve caught yours early and that hopefully ~ as you say, you will be back to normal (albeit a different kind of normal) afterwards. I`m sure in time you`ll be able to resign this part of your life to the dim and distant past and be a stronger person because of it. Hope the radiotherapy goes well I`ve heard you have to go every day for some weeks though I guess this will vary from person to person. But I hear its only for a few minutes each time.

Take good care, and thanks again

Kal x x

Hi Col

Just a quickie to say I`ve been thinking of you today and hoping you`ve got the best news poss. on your Path results. I do hope all`s ok and that you`re tucking into some champagne to celebrate as I type!

Take care

Kal x

Hi Kal

Hope your feeling ok today, I've been to see my consultant and thank goodness his margins are clear and the cancer hasn't spread so I've to go see oncologist 10th June and my chemo should be starting 17th June, not looking forward to that but trtying to have a positive mental attitude. I'm going to make a couple of appointments and go and see about getting a wig, I'm def not brave enough to go au natural. Have a good weekend xx

hi, just read your post and thought i would tell you about my daughter, she was diagnosed with breast cancer last year aged 24 she had the tumour and lymph nodes removed and a month later we had the news that it had spread to her liver, she had chemo which was very succesful and reduced the cancer in her liver to just a trace, she then had another growth in her breast which had to be removed, again succesfully, then a few months ago the cancer spread to her bones, it seems we get over one hurdle then get hit with another, my daughter trys to stay positive and hopeful, we have watchedd her go through some awful times during this last 8 months at one stage she couldnt even walk and had to use wheel chair, but now the treatment for the bones seems to be helping and she is back to walking and leading as nornal lfe as is possible, guess what im trying to say is that your not alone and there is hope albiet you may not think that right now, as we didnt, try to be positive i know thats what everyone says but somehow it does seem help x

Hello, i am so sorry to

hear your news..... i know how you feel as i too have a similar story

to you but mine is lung cancer spread to bones and elsewhere too.

Well the way i have come to see it is what will be will be......

Just make the most of each day, stay positive.

I was told without treatment i only had 8 to 12 weeks i am on week 7 at

the moment without treatment, this is starting next week either a trial

drug or chemo which ever i get chosen for me.

Or with treatment 1 year maybe 50/50 chance, since knowing this i

really can say i have enjoyed my time even doing simple everyday things

so much.

Can you still walk? if you can i would get out and about, ride your horse do as much as you can every day.

I am in a wheelchair since the past 4 weeks so up untill then i did just what i have told you to do.

You have time...... do all of the things you have wanted to do.

Keep strong

Thinking of you, Debbie.x

hI,

I know what you're gong though.

Last week I had a WIE, and22/25 lymph nodes removed which were positive. The BCN said that there is a high possibility that the cells have already spread.

I have already have problems with my legs aching dut to me having celebral palsy, scared this had added to my cancer. I have to have a bone, lung and liver scan next Thursday, and am so terrified! Can't stop crying, eating and m now on anti-depresents and sleeping pills.

I'm so scared about the future (if I have one). Sorry to go on, in the last 2 weeks I have gone from being a happy,person to someone who can't even get out of bed! Everythings been taken away from me. Can anyone help?

I have a wonderful husband, but he's finding it so hard as I am so down

Love Dotty2xx