How am I supposed to feel?

Since my diagnosis 6 weeks ago, I've felt nothing, no tears, no anger, no worry, nothing. Is this normal? Several times I've had people tell me 'thank goodness it's only grade 1' like it's chickenpox! And oh you'll be back to normal and work a couple of weeks after op.

  • I am about to have my fourth lung cancer operation I feel this every time I am told cancer back  as my family say I bury my head in the sand I do have moments occasionally when I get upset I’m sure these will come for you stay clear of people who say this Cancer however big is Cancer maybe ask you specialist Nurse for leaflets to distribute to friends and family Hope your operation goes well please don’t rush back to work (I did after first 2) give your body time to heal 

    sending positive thoughts x

  • Hi, So sorry you have this awful disease, Yes your lucky it's just grade 1 ,but it's the fact  you still have cancer and it's rubbish,good luck to you x

  • I was diagnosed with breast cancer in July. I was the same as you, no tears, no anger just wanted to get on with treatment and move on. I wasn't burying my head in tbecsand as some people thought, I am a practical level headed woman who deals with all situations this way. 

    You are who you are so don't worry about the right reaction. I'm now finishing my radiotherapy today and still no tears etc. It is what it is. Just be yourself and don't listen to thecvoices telling you you're not processing the news.All the best.

  • Hi Holly Lou, I found out about the same time as yourself,  I'm stage 2,I'm feeling much the same as you, It's one of the weirdest feelings I've ever had, I don't think I've felt anything since I was diagnosed.

    I can remember being told that I had cancer, but I don't think you take it in, the Doctor could have been telling me I had a cold, I was just saying, ok, right, so it's Cancer, I was told when I went for my appointment, and I was on my own, I can't remember driving home.

  • Please believe me when I tell you that your feelings are completely normal.  I was first diagnosed with cancer 6 yrs ago, and like you, I felt nothing .  However, 6 years on, the tears and the anger have finally come to me.  I lay awake just a few days ago and I couldn't stop crying.  I am now stage 4 and terminal and frankly I am  ready to go.  I have had enough of this cancer nightmare and I want an end to it. It has taken everything from me and I have had enough.  At stage 1, you have an extremely good chance of beating this horrendous disease and I wish you well.  At the moment, you are probably in shock, and your defence mechanism has kicked in, and remember, there is no such thing as 'normal' because what is 'normal for one person is not normal for another person.   We are all different.  I wish you good luck on your cancer journey.  Take one day at a a time, but I think that at some point, the tears and the anger WILL come to you.  Good luck.