Hello Bridge-, 

Thank you for coming here and sharing your story. What a rollercoaster it has been for you! I am glad though that with everything you've been through, you have had the support of your husband and children. You seem to be a very united family and it's so nice of you to come here because you want to make sure your daughter has the support she needs. I hope that she is going to see someone soon after referring herself to that mental health service and that this will help her. 

It might be worth your daughter talking to her GP if she hasn't done so already about how she has been feeling and her doctor will be able to advise her on whether there is a support group in your local area that she could attend. The GP can also refer her to some counselling and our website has useful information on how to find a counsellor. I would also strongly recommend you read our section on mental health and cancer and in particular our page on where to get support for mental health which has a wealth of information that could be useful to you. As is mentioned on that page, "there is no one type of support that is best for everyone, and different things work for different people at different times" so it can all be a little bit trial and error and the important thing is to find something that will improve your daughter's mental wellbeing. 

Other members of our community might have some tips or want to share thoughts with you based on their personal journeys and experiences and I hope that they will be along shortly and share their story with you. It helps sometimes to talk to others who have been in a similar place before. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator