stage 4 pancreatic cancer

My husband has stage 4 pancreatic cancer no treatment as its too advanced 

Has spread to liver,right lung, bladder, spine and left hip

He was left 6 weeks before his biopsy to confirm the cancer and 7 weeks before his 1st oncology appointment

He's now very jaundice and in liver failure 

I hate seeing him like this

I'm petrified of loosing him and spend most the night listening to him breathing 

He's also very scared of dying and becomes very agitated to the point where I have to call out to district nurses for injections for him 

It's so stressful  

We also have a 5 year old daughter who's autistic and very very close to her daddy 

She dosent understand what's going on and it's so hard for her

I just wish with all my heart that I could do something to stop this happening  

  • My heart goes out to you. I lost my husband 8 years ago to pancreatic cancer. Fortunately my children were grown but I understand how difficult it is explaining this to a young child. We always thought that no matter what we would want my husband to stay at home but in the end it didn’t work out that way and we decided on a hospice. It was for us a good decision. His day to day care was brilliant and it freed us up as a family to spend quality time with him. We could visit anytime day or night and the staff were so understanding. I’m thinking of you and hope you will get all the support you need. You can’t bear this on your own. Speak to Macmillan about how your husband is feeling too.

    love to you and your family

    Happyflower

  • Happyflower thank you for your kind words it's my husbands wish to be at home till the end 

    I'm trying my best but it's so heartbreaking watching him slowly fade away 

    Even worse knowing I carnt do anything in this world to stop it 

    It's only been 10 weeks since we found out about his cancer It's all happened so fast just not enough time to process anything  

    And we certainly haven't had the time to make any special memories I feel like I'm living in limbo and I'll admit some days it feels too much but I do my best 

    Xx

  • I’m so sorry you are going through this desolate time. I hope you have people around to support you. Lots of us understand what you are going through on this site.Please look after yourself too. I know how difficult that is when you are trying to be there for everyone else. xx