I think there isn't any accepting it. There's coming to terms with it so that you can learn to live with it but accepting something that is so unfair cannot be expected. Sadness and anger *is* processing it. I hope you have people you can lean on. There are groups and charities that offer support but nothing can make it fair so be patient with yourself. It will take time.
I think there isn't any accepting it. There's coming to terms with it so that you can learn to live with it but accepting something that is so unfair cannot be expected. Sadness and anger *is* processing it. I hope you have people you can lean on. There are groups and charities that offer support but nothing can make it fair so be patient with yourself. It will take time.
Hi Irishlizzy, I was in the same position as you 5 and a half years ago, yes, that's right, 5 and a half years ago !!! I thought my world was coming to an end. I soon realised that I had to take this one step at a time and found that was the easiest way to deal with it. I had 2 years of immunotherapy with barely any side effects and can honestly say that apart from feeling tired at times I haven't really felt unwell at all. I have 3 tumours in my left lung, the immunotherapy reduced them in size and they are still stable at that reduced size. I finished my treatment and since then have just had regular scans to make sure it hasn't spread elsewhere. I should add that the only reason they found the cancer in my lung was because it had already mestastasised and moved to my brain, that being the secondary tumour and my lung the primary. The brain tumour was completely removed and there's been no regrowth since then. At the time of my diagnosis I never would have believed that I could still be so well this far on but I am very well and pretty much living a normal life. Think positive thoughts and take things one step at a time. My motto is I'm living with cancer , not dying from it. If you need a chat you're more than welcome to reach out to me. I wish you all the very best onthis strange new journey. X
Thankyou for your positive message means alot, i will try and be more positive, going to see a Councillor tomorrow hopefully thrash my anger out god help her x
It's better to be able to talk about it with someone who understands. I have 3 adult daughters who refuse to talk about what I want at the end when the time comes. In my mind I'm trying to prepare them, I've already paid for my funeral and got my finances etc in order to make things as easy as possible for them but because I am and have been so well all this time they refuse to accept my condition is terminal. If you look well you must be well is what they say and to be fair they're right , it's easier to talk to people who will understand your fears and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with this journey. I hope you find your counsellor useful and all goes well. X
