Hello LINCABE10, 

You've been through a lot in recent weeks and this can certainly take its toll on your mental health and wellbeing. It's normal to be scared that something will happen to your healthy breast but do talk to the experts about your fears and if your consultant is reluctant to remove the healthy side, this might be because they think it is unlikely there will be a reoccurrence there. Ask them all these questions so that they can put your mind at rest and perhaps once you know more about the genetics test, you will be able to see things more clearly and make an informed decision. 

You are very lucky to have such a supportive husband but it is totally understandable that you are feeling so upset - sometimes these things also hit you a bit later once you have been through the mastectomy and treatment. Have a look at our section on mental health and cancer on our website where I hope you will find a goldmine of information including on where to get support for mental health . It might be worth having another chat about this with your GP so that they can find the best solution for you and if you are not keen on taking anti depressants you could see whether they have any other suggestions for you. The important thing is that you feel better soon. I am sure there will be other members of our community who have faced similar struggles as a result of cancer and I hope that they will be along shortly to tell you more about how they managed to improve their mental wellbeing or fought their depression. 

Keep strong - we're all here for you during this challenging time. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Lucie 

Thankyou so much for your information and advice.Ive taken steps to speak to a counsellor with a lot of experience of breast cancer issues so I'm hoping this will help.It a couple of good days then a run of bad days when I know people are in a worse situation and I should be grateful.

Thank you again 

Hi Lucie 

Thankyou so much for your information and advice.Ive taken steps to speak to a counsellor with a lot of experience of breast cancer issues so I'm hoping this will help.It a couple of good days then a run of bad days when I know people are in a worse situation and I should be grateful.

Thank you again