Family and friends fears

Hi all,

I’m 30 and was diagnosed with an incurable brain tumour at 24 which doesn’t have a good long term prognosis. My niece was just recently born, and I’m feeling a lot of sadness and fear that I won’t be here to see her grow up, as well as missing out on time with my family and friends. I also really worry about how my death will affect my family and friends, and I find that one of the hardest things to deal with. I was wondering if anyone has any advice on this? 

Thanks so much 

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat forum Dommy although I'm very sorry to hear about the prognosis for your brain tumour.

    It's completely understandable, and natural, to feel sad and fearful about what you may miss out on and how your passing will affect your family and friends, but hopefully taking the time to leave behind some wonderful memories will make things a little bit easier for you all when that time comes.

    Talking about death, especially with your loved ones, can be extremely difficult. Hopefully you will receive some support and advice from our community soon but I was wondering if you had thought about speaking to a counsellor? Some of our members have found counselling to be really helpful at various stages of their diagnosis and journey so if you think this is something that could help, you can find out more about counselling and how to find a counsellor on our website.

    You're also very welcome to talk things through with our cancer nurses on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to support you.

    I know there's nothing I can say that can make this very challenging and upsetting situation any easier, but I hope it helps to know that we're thinking of you Dommy and sending all our strength and support your way.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator