Guilty

Hi I'm looking for some advice I have been with my partner over 11 years feel so guilty that he is having to go through this.I had breast cancer in 2019 was meant to be cancer free but just over a year ago diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast bone lung and lymph node palliative care.Before this happened I was a dedicated carer and 12 hour shifts full time 5 days a week a bombshell hit us.Now I feel jealousy has eaten away at me always said to my partner don't stay out of sympathy.But I feel so guilty as all I want to do is hide away unfair to him.My partner has no support or no one to talk to is there any men's groups where he can talk if wives or girlfriends have cancer etc.Scared he's bottling it all up 

  • Hi there, I can suggest Maggie’s for this, they offer support not just for patients but with their families as well. We are the same I was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer on 2021 and I was telling my husband the same things. Hope he can find the support he needs. Jealousy has eaten me too and this is a valid feeling. Sending love xx 

  • Thank you ever so much I have sent you a private message hope you don't mind x

  • Hi lovely. No worries. Looking forward to speak to you. I sent you a message too. X

  • Hey , hope you're doing okay today. I'm really sorry that you're having guilty feelings about that. Every situation is different obviously , and I can only speak for my situation. People are together for the hard times not just the easy ones, and Im sure he will be feeling just as guilty that you're going through it all aswell and won't even be thinking that he's having to go trough something. My other half always said she felt bad that I was taking on so much but it never ever felt like that. 

    Was kind of in the same situation with not having a place to go and men really are the worst for bottling stuff up..take care and try not let the guilt take over you.