Hello Angry Lady 

You do have the right to refuse meds. However maybe my situation can help? I had breast cancer 5 years ago. They put me on Tamoxifen which was 5 years of not getting repeat breast cancer but the medication did not suit me. I still persevered and kept going though I was nauseous almost every single day for 5 years I just could not get used to it. I did not get recurrence of breast cancer but one factor was omitted when I was taking it. I was 50 and it caused the menopause almost within a week or so of starting it and I never had a period since. No one advised me of the increased risks of endometrial thickening. I am Diabetic, never been pregnant and tick a lot of the boxes for potential endometrial hyperplasia. I started getting period like cramping a year ago which got more persistent so had a referral to gynae-oncology. My endometrial lining was thickened and underwent hysteroscopy and curretage under Gen Anaesthetic in May. They told me it was benign and that I was being discharged from their dept. Its Dec and since last month the cramps and exact same symptoms have flared up again. Now I am being referred again on 2 week referral to gynae oncology. 

Was it worth taking Tamoxifen? yes it has kept me from a highly aggressive and high risk of recurring breast carcinoma but it does have complications that now need more tests and biopsy again on my endometrium. Make sure you ask questions, ask about risks because I was certainly not told of this risk. Then make a decision. Some people settle with Tamoxifen after a few months so maybe worth giving it a go? I am still sure it stopped recurrence of breast cancer but now life is back on the merry go round of tests, scans and biopsies I on some days feel like was it worth it? I was never offered any scans or checks of my endometrium make sure you ask about this. 

Otherwise maybe just maybe you try it for a few months and see how you get on with it? The weird thing is cancer is horrid but the treatment for it seems worse especially as its given after a a really stressful time. 

I hope I have not ranted too much.... Sending you hugs and healing 

Yeah, my wife has had those issues too with her womb. But her thickening happened within the first year. Luckily, like yourself, everything turned out to be benign.

Caught between a rock and a hard place with certain treatments. She is the same age as yourself, and her periods also stopped when she began taking that. But the cells they removed showed she was still pre menopause, but the doctors all said she probably isn't. It's all rather confusing if truth be told. She's at that awkward age where she could be considered pre or post menopause. Before her cancer diagnosis, she was still having periods.

I know how stressful it all becomes I thought I had the menopause when I started Tamoxifen but 5 years later and having stopped it I am now going through yet another menopause it seems. 

Got my next biopsy for the endometrium booked in ow...fingers crossed 

Fingers crossed for you. Do keep us updated on here if you feel happy to.

Fingers crossed for you. Do keep us updated on here if you feel happy to.