mental health while trying to live with kidney cancer

I have been thriugh the mill over the past 5years. I lost my husband dec 2017 he was my carer as ive MS, 2018 i found out ive kidney cancer them i broke my back in2019, in 9/21 id ctcryoablation on left kidney, i have been depressed this whole time i dont know where to turn to i live with my adult son who should be living with his partner but he wont leave me alone. brfore covid my gp was there for me since then i have never had a conversation with any gp infact i had to leave a message with receptionist who told the gp how i was feeling and he left me a prescription for depression tabs, when my husband passed my gp got me 10 sessions with councillor all she wanted was to hear how he passed and at the end i said to her this has made me worse, she then agreed id ptsd but she wasnt qualified to deal with that! My life is a mess where can i turn for help?

  • Welcome to the forum Dogowner although I'm so sorry to read what you have been through. I can't begin to imagine how tough the last 7 years have been but I'm glad you've reached out to us as so many of our members here will understand and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer you their support and advice.

    In the meantime, I've been doing some research and hope some of the resources I've found will help. First is the information and advice we have in our mental health and cancer section of the website. We also have an area dedicated to depression and cancer.

    I know you've mentioned that you haven't been able to see your GP but do keep trying as they will be able to put you on the right path to get the support you need. However, if this proves to be impossible then it may be worth looking in to the talking therapies service the NHS provides. You can refer yourself directly without a GP referral and can find out more about this just here.

    The mental health charity Mind have a lot of information and advice on getting help for PTSD but you may be able to find support groups in your area for this through a website called Hub of Hope

    Finally there is a website called PTSDUK. They have a lot of information about treatment and a list of charities and organisations where you can get help for PTSD. 

    I really hope this helps but if you'd like to discuss your situation with one of our cancer nurses, you're very welcome to do so on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very easy to talk to and will do all they can to help.

    We're thinking of you Dogowner and will have our fingers crossed you're able to get the support you need to help you through this very difficult time.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator