I feel so depressed 6 years after diagnosis of a stage 4 gliro blastomer brain tumor cancer andball the evil. Pll that gos with it iv had enough how can life be so bad how do you cope and keep going,
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling so much at the moment. I know we have members here who have been living with a stage 4 diagnosis of other types of cancer for quite a few years and I hope that some of them will reply to share their advice and experiences with you.
Do you have any form of support Tom200? I know that having friends and family around you can be invaluable but sometimes having support from outside of that immediate circle can be really helpful particularly if you're struggling. If you've not spoken to someone then please do reach out for help. It could be that you have a clinical nurse specialist that you could contact to talk to, or maybe you have a good relationship with your GP. Alternatively, you might want to contact your local Maggie's Centre where you can access support from their cancer support specialists as well as psychologists and support groups.
We don't often have members post here on the forum who are living with brain tumours so whilst you're most welcome here, I also wanted to let you know about an organisation called The Brain Tumour Charity. They offer a wide range of services that you may be able to access for support including counselling and an online forum where you can chat with others who may have the same diagnosis.
You're also most welcome to talk to our team of nurses. I know they'll be happy to listen and offer any advice and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm on 0808 800 4040.
Undoubtedly living with cancer for such a long time takes its toll on you both physically, mentally and emotionally. It's ok to not be ok Tom220. You have been, and continue to deal with so very much. Just take each day at a time and be kind to yourself. Reach out for support and lean on those around you.
Keep in touch and I'm sending our best wishes, Jenn Cancer Chat moderator
Hi thanks for the reply i lost everything cause of this 5years gone and i strugle all the time my wife married me after my diagnosis 2then left me 2 month's later thru me out moved her new man in and stoped me seeing my kids i fellbdead inside i havw no fight left
I can't begin to imagine how difficult these last 5 years have been but as Jenn said, support can be so crucial when feeling this way so if you haven't done so already, please do be sure to reach out to some of the charities Jenn has mentioned in her post or to your GP.
The Samaritans are also available to talk to, day and night, on 116 123. They are there to listen and will do all they can to help.
I really do hope you receive some support and advice from our community soon Tom, but in the meantime I hope you can take some strength, and comfort, from knowing that we are here for you and sending all our support your way.
thats quite a kicking to take that you have had to deal with, difficult enough for a normal healthy person, so l can only begin to imagine the anguish you have had to face.
l assume you still have to contend with ongoing health issues that are impacting upon your everyday life, but here you are six years on and still fighting. l get the feeling that we might share the same characteristic of being a pessimistic optimist, never thinking a good time will happen, but never accepting that it couldn't. Thats what keeps you putting one foot in front of the other, but you need to recognise that it will never drop into your lap without yourself making an effortt to get yourself back in a saddle and get out there.
l struggled with a stage 4 bowel cancer diagnosis that fulfilled its initial promise by migrating into the liver and things looked pretty bleak. The challenges just kept coming and threatening to overwhelm me. l really had to question if l could keep going and if l had the will to do so. l also realised that if l were too, then l would need some help. this was my lowest point and it was at this time l found my local Maggies centre. That was the turning point for me, looking back what it seemed to provide on the surface was not a lot, but underneath it was everything. Friendly faces, shared understanding, an oasis of calm where my crushing thoughts could dissapate leaving my mind open to possibilities that l thought had long gone, no pressures placed upon you to do, say or conform to anything. For me my local Maggies helped me realise that l could have a future albeit different to the one l had before, along with the passengers that are the resulting side effects from my treatments. And boy have l embraced it, achieving all and more than l had ever previously thought possible. l have gone on new journeys, and learnt new routes on how to get there, different ways of getting things done, thats what gets me up looking forward to each new day.
Learning the lesson that my past is behind me and nothing l can do to change that no longer matters, whats in front and how l go about reaching into my future does.
The biggest strength l found in all of this was not succumbing to the weakness of not being able to accept help and support, strange then as we humans shun this help and yet crave to be accepted.
So after all these traumatic years you still find yourself here, reaching out with your post pointing to the suggestion that you still want to move forward and find more in your life.Thats a positive, hopefully a start towards embracing finding more support to help you rediscover a life you would wish to live.
Then perhaps and just maybe, accept that even pessimists can create the space to allow optimism to flourish and grow the fresh shoots of hope back into your life,
Take care and realise you not alone in seeking your answers,
