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No sex drive at all

Matlockmummy
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Hi all

Very up close and personal subject but I'm really struggling with it all so any advice would be amazing.

I was diagnosed with tongue cancer 8 years ago now, had surgery, had chemo and had radiotherapy. All is good since.

Now my sex drive has completely disappeared. I met my partner 5 years ago and things were great. We had a magical baby as I was told natural pregnancy was not an option after my treatments etc. 

Now 4 years on and my sex drive is non existent. I have read up and it says cancer treatment can do this but it eventually comes back but I'm really struggling to see when ‍♀️

Thankfully my partner is very understanding but it's now effecting me mentally as a woman. I feel worthless.

Has anyone experienced the same?

Thanks

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    Hi there, 

    I couldn't not reply to this post as you say it is a personal subject but one that is so important to so many people. 

    I have read lots of literature and posts on this subject and it does seem to be quite common to lose your sex drive after or during cancer treatment. 

    It's good your hubby is understanding, but I know that doesn't stop you putting pressure on yourself to magically get it back. I think like most things in life, if you relieve yourself of the pressure of feeling it's a problem, it can only help. You're not worthless, none of us are, you are still on a major rollercoaster and you can't just jump off because you want to. Your body and mind will recover, each of us are different but not putting pressure on yourself will help, I'm sure. 
     

    Sending massive hugs and a great reminder of how magnificent and brave you are to get this far and reach out as you have. 
     

    if it helps, I keep joking that my favourite film star could sit next to me right now and there would not be a 'flicker' quite literally. I laugh about it as that helps me. 
     

    hugs again Mickey x 

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    I always try and laugh about it as I find humour to help me in a lot of different scenarios. Even through cancer and treatment I tried to laugh it off and make a joke out of it all. But now I'm really struggling with this. As a woman it's so hard to feel like I don't want to do things. I just feel as a woman it's my duty blah blah blah. 
     

    Thankyou so much for your reply. Made me smile :)

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    I totally understand what you're saying and you feel how you feel and we cope how we cope. However - blah blah blah probably sums it up for me, we should never feel there is a duty. Our duty is to our recovery and doing the best we can when we can and that in itself is a miracle. Be kind to yourself and try not to put that kind of pressure on yourself x 

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