Hi, 

This is my first time posting on the forum, I joined a while ago but up until now I’ve just been reading posts. My mum is 65, she went in for a routine check up before ankle reconstruction and came out with a diagnosis of stage 4 lung cancer with metastasis to her liver, lymph nodes and a couple of other places. She was given 2 weeks to live without any form of palliative treatment, she had one round of chemo/immunotherapy and she is still with us 5 months later although I think she’s nearing her time, she had been a smoker until about 8 years ago, she already had COPD.
 

I currently live in Australia and she lives in the UK, I managed to fly back and see her for a week the week she was diagnosed but I haven’t seen her since and I won’t see her again before she dies. I'm struggling because I'm one of those people who needs plans in life and needs to know dates etc and obviously that isn't going to happen with knowing how much longer she has.

I’m an Emergency Nurse, so I don’t know if that helps or hinders me as I know a lot more than a non medical person which is a good and a bad thing I guess, I’ve researched as much as I can but I can’t find many answers about the bleeding but she’s been bleeding a lot from her back passage (like a substantial period near constantly she says) and sleeping all the time, I’m worried she’s going to haemorrhage and no one will be there with her as she lives alone, my sister is about 20 mins away and is there when she can be. I feel like she’s given up now as she said to me yesterday that hopefully it’s coming to an end now, I just want her to go without pain and in peace and it’s so hard being on the other side of the world and unable to be with her. I’m surprised she is still with us tbh.

Anyway thank you for listening. I am sure I will post more during the coming weeks.