I couldn't read your post and not reply. I will start by saying that categorically you are not wrong to want to live your life! Who knows what the future holds for you or for any of us. If having a cancer diagnosis doesn't make you want to grab life by the proverbial and enjoy it for all that you can then I'm not sure what will.
I can see that you've already commented on another thread that we have about dating on the forum but I wanted to give share the links to this thread and also to this thread with you. I know that Moderator Renata has shared some links in her reply on the second thread I've linked but I also wanted to give you this link to a Shine Cancer Support article. Whilst the Facebook support group they mention is aimed at people in a younger age range, there is a link to a podcast at the bottom of the article that you might like to listen to.
In terms of "when" do you tell someone about your diagnosis and treatment, well that's quite an individual choice. If you're dabbling in online dating then it may be that you decide to tell your potential date before you meet them. Or it may be that you don't feel comfortable sharing that information with someone until a second or third date. It really is different for everyone and every situation. Trust your gut instinct about when you feel the right time to share.
I'd also say, once you've shared that information if the other person decides they can't or don't want to pursue things any further then try not to take things to heart too much. It simply means that that person isn't the right one for you.
I wish you well not only for the rest of your treatment Botwinkle but also for the new adventures ahead in the world of dating! Good luck in finding love :love:
Hi Botwinkle, I felt I had to reply to you and say "good for you!" As for when you tell someone about your BC, I would say go with the flow. Your instinct will tell you when it is the right time to tell your date about your illness. And no, you are definitely not wrong to want to live your life. In fact, if there is one thing that having cancer has taught me it is this: Live EVERY moment like it is your last. Good luck mate, Violet, x
