Hiya,
I'm facing a bit of a dilemma after a hospital consultation today and I'm just a bit blindsided about what my options are.
I had a seed of cancer within a bowel polyp, removed by endomucosal resection in November 2021. I had a clear margin but only by less than 1mm. The polyp had no lymphovascular invasion and late last year was classed as well differentiated. I was told that the cancer was in the polyp and hadn't invaded the bowel wall, which was great news (considering). I had a clear CT scan, a clear MRI, and a second flexible sigmoidoscopy to check the area revealed that the area which had the polyp looked totally healthy again. Therefore I was expecting good news from my follow up consultation.
Fast forward to today and the doctor (who seemed wildly unprepared, was an hour late, and didn't realise we were meeting today) told me that the cancer was moderately differentiated (whereas all notes have said well differentiated before). He said that the MDT notes recommended I either have watch and wait surveillance, or I have surgery to remove 20cm of rectum and colon along with the surrounding lymph nodes. This surgery was listed as a worst case scenario back in November 2021, but would be the only sure fire way that nothing spread to the lymph nodes despite there being no LVI. I was assured that the chance of it having spread to the lymph was 5%. Therefore in November this was deemed as worst case scenario. I have had all these clear scans and endoscopies since but my doctor today just told me he wants me to have the surgery. I feel so torn. I'm only 34 and don't want to have to live with a bag- it all feels so excessive to me given everything has been clear and multiple doctors up to this point have said I will just have to have scans and surveillance because "they got it all". One doctor during a pre-assessment said they could discharge me if my MRI was clear (it was).
I'm just so torn whether to go ahead with the operation or not. It's major surgery involving resection, a temporary bag, then reversal. I feel like I'm gambling with my life by not having it, however if the risk of the cancer spreading to the lymph nodes is 5%, I see the surgery as being a 100% chance of changing my life forever.
I'm so torn and would appreciate any advice or experiences you might have. I feel so broken by this and need some word of encouragement.
all my love to you all,
Betty
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