I've never used a forum before so forgive me if I not as concise or to the point as others. I really need a second opinion on my relationship though and I can't speak to my family or friends as they are already worried about me, and I don't want to further stress them out by adding relationship problems to the mix. 

I started chemo at the beginning of November last year and the recovery time is getting longer and longer each time. When I'm not sick and exhausted from that I swing from being fairly uncomfortable to just strait up in pain. I feel like I've done pretty well at keeping up my commitments and not outwardly showing that I'm unwell or in pain, but more recently I've felt like it takes every ounce of energy to remain cheerful and to continue being helpful. I'm still working at the moment, although my employer has been really supportive and is letting me work from home. However I'm begining to struggle to keep up with my work load due to being tired and unwell for days at time.

My partner is nearly 8 months pregnant and is also tired and uncomfortable and I want to be as supportive as possible. She still cooks most of the time but other than that I do basically everything else like cleaning and washing etc. Which isn't a problem, but she’s becoming increasingly annoyed that I'm being unsupportive. I'm sure I could normally deal with this by simply being more supportive but I'm honestly feeling like I'm struggling and going to get even less supportive. I've expressed this to her, but she doesn’t appear to understand and just gets annoyed. I feel like she’s acting as though nothing has changed and whilst this has been primarily focused on physical commitments it's making me feel like she doesn’t care. It's not easy for me to open up to people and I worry about burdening them with my problems, but I told her how I was feeling slightly overwhelmed and that I was angry and scared at the prospect of potentially being too sick to be a good dad and the prospect of possibly not seeing my child grow up. She just said that everyone has stresses and that she’s stressed to.

I've genuinely never really asked her for anything. I pride myself on being self-sufficient and holding my own council and if I'm being honest, I feel I derive most of my self-worth from being there for my family. But I'm starting to feel resentful. I'm trying to see things from her perspective but the problem is that I truly believe that if the roles were reversed, I would be more understanding. I couldn’t see myself getting angry with her over her taking too long to empty the dishwasher 2 days after her having chemo. She's never asked me how I'm feeling about any of this, and she gets annoyed when I'm bed bound the day after chemo. I'm always okay the day of treatment but the day after the side effects hit and I'm beginning to dread how she becomes. After every treatment so far, she has had a migraine, or sciatica or indigestion and then gets mad at me for being in bed because she’s sick too. I recognise this is probably just her way of dealing with things but it’s really starting to stress me. Am I being selfish or deluding myself here? I fully except that I'm less helpful than I was but I'm not sure what I can do. I don't need emotional or physical support from her, I just need her to understand why I'm not as quick or as good as I used to be

I apologise for the stream of consciousness. I've tried to be as accurate as possible, but the above is still just my side of events. I really need to hear someone else’s take on this so I know whether it's just me, if I'm being self-centered or missing somthing, or if I'm justified in feeling like this. Thank you!