Hi Ace3skoot,

A very warm welcome to our forum. 

I am so very sorry to hear of your dad's prognosis. This has come as a terrible shock to you, but please try to put yourself in your dad's shoes. He is being strong for you and your sister and, somehow or other you will find the strength to support him through this final hurdle - we all do, no matter how hard it is. 

Crying is not a bad thing, as it helps to reduce a lot of the stress that you are under, but try not to cry in front of your dad, as I'm sure that this will only upset him further. I am glad to hear that your sister is there to look after you and your dad, but I'm sure that you can help her in some small ways. Just by being there you are sharing the burden. Don't be afraid to talk to your sister about how you are both feeling, as this can also be a help.

Try not to look too far ahead. Deal with the present, day by day, or even hour by hour if need be. Help your sister to ensure that your dad is kept as comfortable as possible and, talk to your dad as normal, making sure not to leave anything left unsaid. It doesn't really matter what you say, so long as you are there for both of them.

Despite being on the autistic spectrum, I am sure that you can and will do this.

I am thinking of and praying for you and your family. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine

Hi Ace3skoot

I can't add much to what Jolamine said- only try not to beat yourself up too much. I'm on the autistic spectrum-self diagnosed, and it's your lines about being useless, not knowing what to do or say that chimed with me- the awful self judgement.  These events are overwhelming for everybody. Try  to be kind  to yourself, as kind as you're being to your dad. 

Best wishes