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The waiting game

Madgee
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I'm so glad I found this forum and now know that waiting for results is difficult for everyone at times I think I'm just a negative person but it seems the waiting game is tough.  I had duct ecstasia around 8 years ago with no reoccurrence.  I recently decided I would get the lump checked behind my left nipple but wasn't concerned as my nipple has been inverted for 8 years and I fully expected to be told it's duct blockage again.  Came as a shock to find that's not likely. .  3 biopsies on lump and one in Lymph node.  Words used like worried and highly suspicious during consultation.  To be honest I'm in shock that awful sick feeling in your tummy and another ten days till results appointment.  I asked some direct questions but obviously she wouldn't commit till results are in but in her experience I will be having treatment. Keeping as busy as I can but an emotional wreck right now. Relieved to hear this is the norm for most of you awaiting results. 

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    Hi Madge,

    A very warm welcome to our forum. I am sorry to hear that you have been given this news before your results have come back. I'm not sure whether this makes things easier or harder to deal with. I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years. On both occasions i was told at the first visits that it was highly lightly to be cancer and unfortunately, it was. On another occasion I was told this too, but the lump turned out to be benign. 

    Consultants find that we take the news better when cancer is diagnosed if we've had a couple of weeks to prepare for the bad news. The main thing is not whether or not you have cancer, but whether it is treatable or not. Fortunately, most are and, breast cancer is one of the most treatable forms of cancer nowadays.

    It would probably have been impossible for your consultant to answer the questions you asked before the biopsy results come back. However, don't let that deter you from asking them again then. You will find it helpful to write down a list of questions prior to your appointment - I do this for all consultations, as it is all too easy to forget something important in the heat of the moment.

    It is not at all unusual to find yourself an emotional wreck whilst you're waiting. As you've no doubt already read, many of us liken this journey to an emotional roller coaster. Remember that we have all been through this and know how hard it is. We are here to support you whenever you need us.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Thank you so much for your reply. It's so good to be able to share your fears and worries with others going through a similar experience. I know there is always hope but feel I am preparing myself for bad news, I'm actually grateful for that, as much as I want to put my positive pants on I'd rather prepare for bad news. If it turned out to be positive it would be amazing but being prepared for the worst is maybe the best way for me to deal with it. I will definitely let you know how I get on. Many thanks
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    Thank you so much for your reply. It's so good to be able to share your fears and worries with others going through a similar experience. I know there is always hope but feel I am preparing myself for bad news, I'm actually grateful for that, as much as I want to put my positive pants on I'd rather prepare for bad news. If it turned out to be positive it would be amazing but being prepared for the worst is maybe the best way for me to deal with it. I will definitely let you know how I get on. Many thanks
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