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Telling adult children

Billyhowe
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How do Ivtell my 4 adult children I am ill with myeloma

i was diagnosed in May but have delayed treatment until after my daughters wedding 3 weeks ago and my eldest son is getting married in 4 weeks

It couldn't be a worse time and keeping it secret is a terrible strain for myself and my husband We haven't told anyone and trying to keep a happy face knowing I will be starting treatment two days after my sons wedding is so difficult. But we just could not ruin their happy days. 
As they live in different parts of the country how do we tell them? By phone WhatsApp Zoom meeting personal visit? This is a relief just sharing it with the forum

 

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    Hi sorry to read your diagnosis. Totally understand that you would want to wait until after their weddings and that it must be extremely difficult.

    I got diagnosed with breast cancer in March and don't live near my son or daughter and they live different parts of UK too. Both are married they did know I had been recalled from my mammogram however when I was told I facetimed them separately to tell them. When I then went back to get results we had family call and after I did speak to them separately. 

    It wasn't easy and we've all shed tears. My cancer was removed but I'm now going through chemo then radiotherapy and it's not easy but I've been totally honest all the way. 

    Wishing you all the best 

    Louise xx

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