Hey BettyB

I am currently in exactly the same situation as you. I attended the clinic on Wed (21st) and Dr has pretty much said the lump she found is cancerous. I'm due back on 5th May for the biopsy results. I feel in a daze to be honest. When I talk about it I can't actually comprehend that I'm talking about myself! I'm 48 and this wasn't part of my life plan :-( 

How are you doing? Thinking of you. Sarah xx 

Hey BettyB

I am currently in exactly the same situation as you. I attended the clinic on Wed (21st) and Dr has pretty much said the lump she found is cancerous. I'm due back on 5th May for the biopsy results. I feel in a daze to be honest. When I talk about it I can't actually comprehend that I'm talking about myself! I'm 48 and this wasn't part of my life plan :-( 

How are you doing? Thinking of you. Sarah xx 

Hi,

I know exactly what you mean! I'm 40 and a single Mum to a gorgeous boy. I'm pretty fit and healthy and so this came as a massive horrible shock to me. I found out on Tuesday that it is breast cancer and I need an op followed by chemo and radiotherapy. I'm still so scared and have good and bad days but I think it is all the waiting, I just want to get on and fight this! It's so unfair and so damn scary but we can do this! Although I'm hoping that they made a mistake with yours and all will be well. We'll all get through it, whatever is thrown at us!

Take care xx 

Hi,

I am so sorry to hear that your cancer has been confirmed. Have you got a date for your op yet? You will find it easier to cope with once you start treating it. It is not a walk in the park, but it is all 'doable'. I have been through it twice in the past 11 years and am still leading a busy and fulfilling life.

Please keep in touch and remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi,

I can't believe you have been through this twice! Life can be so damn cruel! You're amazing being on here and helping others through their journey. I honestly can't tell you how much your messages reassure and calm me. Thank you so much, from all of us!

I'm having an MRI next week whilst they check a couple of things and then a meeting to discuss the op. Surgeon is amazing, so honest and kind - I feel so safe with the team. I'm absolutely petrified, more so about the chemo strangely - but I know I'll find the strength from somewhere to beat this! I have to, for my boy xx

So many of us in the same position:-( I'm 51 and a single mum to young twins. Had routine mammogram a month ago yesterday, now having lumpectomy on Thursday- it's all so quick but at the same time seems to go so slow. They said radiotherapy then maybe chemo depending what they find. I'm er/pr negative which appears not to be in my favour  not got HER back yet. But seems triple negative means chemo? Not sure about 2 negatives and a positive though? 

We must all be strong and get through this somehow xx 

Hey. 
 

Lovejy to hear from you. Although not under great circumstances! I am so sorry to hear your result. It seems so bloody unfair doesn't it?!?! 
 

I am a single Mamma too. I have two teenage sons. I've not said a word to them yet. I figure no point upsetting/worrying them unless totally necessary. 
 

I tried to get more from the Dr but all she would say is that she was very concerned. I know there is a chance that the biopsy will say otherwise. But I'm inclined to think not. I have microcalcifications apparently too. Not sure what that means. Didn't ask as was too in shock! 
 

It's just so damn bloody scary. Plus, I hate not knowing. I am like you. If I need to I just want to get the treatment under way and come out the other side. My fear now is that it's far worse that I'm thinking - if that makes sense? Dr didn't biopsy my lymph nodes. She did ultrasound them though. 
 

Thinking of you and wondering how on Earth we and so many others can be totally blindsided by BC

Sarah xx 

Hi,

Unfortunately, we don't get a choice when it comes to cancer. We all only get one shot at life. I have always maintained that I won't let cancer define me and, I intend to live life to the fullest that I can.

Thank you so much for your kind comments. I am delighted to be able to help people on this site, as I personally got so much support from people on here when I first joined.

It is really good to hear that you have a good surgeon. It makes so much difference when you have faith in your care team and know that you can depend upon them to get you over this hurdle. I hope that all goes well with your MRI next week. Please let us know how you get on.

Many people dread the thought of starting chemo, but they find the strength to get through it and, I'm sure that you will too. Besides, we are all here to support you through your cancer journey.  There is no better incentive than to remain here for your boy and you will do this.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Merlincat,

I am sorry to hear that you find yourself in the same position and hope that all goes well for you on Thursday. We are really fortunate that we live in a country where we have routine mammograms and, where  your cancer can be picked up earlier than it otherwise would.

The more positive you can remain throughout treatment, the better you will cope with your cancer diagnosis. Please remember that we are always here for you on bad days as well a good.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Sarah,

I am so sorry to see that you have joined our forum for the same reason. The way you are feeling is perfectly normal. It is so difficult to accept that this is happening to you and not someone else. This is something that none of us plan for in our lives, but we've just got to work with the cards that we're dealt and it is all perfectly 'doable'. 

I hope that your results on 5th May show, that if you do have cancer, it is still in the early stages. Irrespective of the outcome, you will feel better once you know exactly what you are dealing with and  start to work towards getting rid of it.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on with your results. Remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine

Thank you for your lovejy response. I have read so many of your kind words and great advice on here. You are always so positive which is always so good to read. 
 

Love Sarah xx 

Hi sarah,

Thank you for your kind comments. I have found that positivity is a great help in coping with cancer. Like most people, i still have down days, but don't let them rule my life. Life is too short to let this happen and I intend to live it to the best of my abilities.

We nearly all persuade ourselves that things are worse than we think at this stage. Keeping my fingers crossed that this won't be the case when you get your results.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx