My mum has four weeks left to live

So after years of not seeing my birth mother due to her alcoholism, I get news that she has four weeks left to live. She isn't helping herself, and won't accept any care off the doctors. She's unstable, and has let her life get in to this mess. I'm really scared for her, and don't know what to do for her, I feel helpless! 
I told her it would come to this years ago, but she wouldn't listen. Now am I suppose to put my life aside to look after her? 

  • Hello Hollystaystrong

    I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis and the situation that you now find yourself in. 

    It's obviously an incredibly difficult time for you and it's understandable that you will have many conflicting emotions. 

    I'm unsure if your Mum is at home or in hospital but if you are involved in her care I'd encourage you to speak to her GP, Consultant or Nurse and make sure that you have all the support in place that you need. And if you don't feel that it's something that you're able to do, then don't be afraid to have that conversation with the medical professionals either. 

    I hope that you're able to find the support that you need and that your Mum comes to a place where she feels able to accept the help that the Dr's are offering. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator