Hi Nik-1,

I am glad to hear that you managed to get this attended to quickly. Surgeons usually have a fairly good idea of whether or not something is cancerous, although they may occasionally be mistaken - I expect that it's all down to experience. However, any tissue removed after surgery is sent to Pathology to be analysed and they can tell more about the cancer situation then.

I can only think that your surgeon didn't do a biopsy because s/he may have had a slot for surgery and thought that it was better to give you this before Covid delayed these procedures again. You should find out for certain when your results come back.

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Hoping for good news.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine 

What a lovely name

I think because everything happened so quickly! And I was very lucky to be seen and have the operation. Especially in these differcult circumstances with Covid. 

Like everyone in these situations we do think the worst and its hard not to. I left mine for 12yrs so it's hard not to think it'll be bad new. I suffer with depression and anxiety, so my anxiety has shot right up lol. My operation was moved forward to 1st thing as I had severe anxiety but all the staff that took care of me from start to finish were all wonderful and caring. I sent the department I was in a card to thank them.

Thanks so much for your message, its really hard feeling alone for anyone going through this. 

Big hugs for you xxx

I have 4/5 blood blisters in that area had them about 13 years they do bleed now and then, my gp told me they was benign and nothing to worry about so I left it there, I get your anixety though and I am currently having other lady worries hence why on the forum good luck with your results.

Thanks westcoat for your reply ️ mine are not blisters, I was diagnosed with VIN straight away when I told my Dr and as I've mentioned from seeing her to consultant and having a wide local vulva excision it's only been just under a month and I've had it 12yrs but was too embarrassed about it and thought it would go. Even between the time of seeing the Gp who is a gynecologist too 1 day a week at the hospital. She said please, please, please go to the hospital appointment and I did. They took over 6mm away or cm I can't remember and get them mixed up. I had a lump, open sore and lots of itchiness which I thought were connected to perimenopause. I love my Dave but I feel isolated as he is a workaholic!! Lol maybe for the best it's bad news as I won't be in the way!! Apologies not in a good place right now like some many others xxxx 

Hi Nik-1,

Thank you for that comment. Have you been told when to expect your results? It shouldn't be much longer.

Just remember that you are never alone now that you have joined our forum. We are here for both the good days and the bad. There is always someone on here who has been through what you are going through. I can understand that  your fears when you have had this for over 12 years, but just remember that even if you do get a positive diagnosis, there is always something that can be done.

I felt like you too, but that was 11 years ago. I have had a second bout of breast cancer since then, but am still here and living a busy and fulfilled life.

Keeping my fingers crossed for good news.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi jolamine 

Wow you sound like a fighter!! I'm so proud of you for sharing! I am feeling completely terrified atm and get more anxiety especially when I know our postie has been. I just want to know what I'm dealing with. I know its not Breast cancer for me which must be such an immense worry for any woman. Lol trust me to get the most embarrassing places!! I do feel so alone. Not many friends or family. My hubby is a workaholic, I know he loves me but I 'm feeling left out with no support I just don't know what else to do and it's driving me nuts!!. Its just the waiting that puts more pressure on. I've tried the Dr's this week but tomorrow I will try and call the hospital. I hate the idea of bugging anyone but I'm going out of my mind.

Much love and big hugs for you and thanks so much for your reply xxxxx

Hi Nik-1,

There are more embarrassing places to have a problem. Just remember that you won't present with something that your doctor hasn't seen before and, that they won't be phased by anything that you present with.

Have you tried talking with your hubby? Many partners are terrified too, but don't know what to say. 

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine 

I know and understand people say that all the time that it's nothing the Dr's etc haven't seen before but lol many of us are not used to showing our wares lol. My bestie just went for a smear test and put it off la year longer than she should of. She's has cysts removed in the past. She absolutely hates having a smear but tbh I think many of us are embarrassed and we shouldn't be I know.

I think hubby is scared too and like you say doesn't know what to say. All I wanted was a bit more help in the home but after all I am his domestic goddess lol.

I hope you are OK and have a good weekend xxx

Hi , I am sorry to hear your worries . I am fairly new on this chat and reached out to a person who I was talking to then she disappeared so was worried to post again as I was then worried about her ! I am mid treatment for my breast cancer and have felt very alone along the way and your post touched me ( posts) . It's very tricky for men I think trying to deal with our things .... especially when it's things they can't see .... if that makes sense ! To be honest some of my friends (ladies too ) have been a bit rubbish come to think of it ! I know my husband loves me too and finds it hard to talk about stuff ! I have put my big girl brave pants on for his sake and my two children's sake and gone through this trying to cope alone . I am two weeks away from radiotherapy which hopefully will be the final stage . Had a lumpectomy in October . I am wondering how I am going to ever live my life trying not to think about it coming back! 
I have had so many woman see/touch my breasts in the last few months I would like to say it gets easier but it doesn't and I totally get what you mean about going to doctor or anyone and getting out your private parts ! It's very awkward ! However .... if I had not gone for my routine mammogram and got over that awkwardness I would be in a very different position in a year or two as without it I couldn't feel the lump and it was 3.6cms and I was totally shocked when they said I had cancer as I had no idea ! I was in surgery within the month and found it all very hard to process ! There are people out there who can help ... it's just finding them ! I came into this forum when I was first diagnosed and was petrified about what I was reading so stopped for a few months .... now I am back on it to try and figure out how to get my head around living my life with it always being in the back of my mind . However now I am on it I would like to be able to Ofer support if anyone needs a friend . Take care x