My estranged dad has been diagnosed with leukaemia

Karma has been work. My parents divorced 21 years ago. I have 2 sisters, a brother and a half sister. At the time of their separation I was 17, my brother 18 and my sisters 12 and 6 years old. We were all living in Vietnam at the time. My dad started cheating on my mum (again) with a Vietnamese girl who was barely 25. Anyway, mum found out, all hell broke lose we (the kids) and my mum loved back to Europe. My dad stayed and still lives in Vietnam. We have not seen him since, he never paid child support etc.

My brother got diagnosed with Melanoma in 2001, dad did not bother even getting in touch with him.

I was diagnosed with a grade 2 Astrocytoma brain tumour in 2017 and had surgery, radiotherapy and chemotherapy. He did not come to the UK to see me because it was 'too complicated'. 
 

Now he's the ill one and he wants to call us all to apologise for being a sorry excuse for a father...  

  • Dad's, good ones, bad ones and absent ones.  What do you want to do?  My Dad had an affair, left us, never really bothered that much and as you say complications all round but when he was diagnosed with blood cancer he wanted to make amends.  I bit my tongue, thought I was the bigger person and let him have his say.  So that's what happened, then he died and all I felt was relief but he had said sorry, I had accepted that and it was over.  You will get one chance to say goodbye, take it and move on.  Trust me you will feel a great deal of relief and then probably never give him a second thought.  I hope all goes well.  Best wishes, Carol x