Bf brain tumor advice

Hi everyone

I've never written on a forum before but I would really appreciate some advice from people with more experience then me.

I have known this man since beginning of November, it was clear we both had feelings for each other, however by the end of November he was diagnosed with stage 4 brain tumor. 

As covid is still very much on the rise and him shielding we mainly had a 'online relationship'. His currently on chemo and radiotherapy however, over the last few weeks I can see his excaused and depressed. Yesterday he spoke of suicide, sadly due to government restrictions I feel like there's not much I can do to help and it's killing me inside. 

I wanted ask if you could kindly advice me. In ways I could help him at these uncertain times? And tips to help counsel him? 

Much appreciated, kind regards 

Simplymee 

 

 

  • Hi Simplymee,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I'm very sorry to read of what you and this man are currently going through at the moment - this sounds like an incredibly difficult situation.

    If he has spoken seriously of suicide then I would recommend you (or him) giving Samaritans a call as they can offer support at times like this. They can be reached on 116 123.

    Otherwise, organisations such as Macmillan have various resources to help those who are caring for, or connected to, someone with cancer.

    Also if at any point you are concerned that someone may be at risk, don’t hesitate to contact your local police station on 101 and they can make sure he is OK.

    Hopefully you will receive further replies on this forum too with any suggestions. We are always here for support so do use the forum as much as you'd like as a safe space to write things down and speak to others.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Chemo and radiotherapy does make one tired. I went through that and still do since July 2019. Tell him to keep on fighting otherwise it will win. I focus on the positive and ignore the negative thoughts. The covid does not help I agree. Has your bf contacted Macmillan they are a great help to me and my family even now.