Hello, my name is Susan, my husband Alex is in the final stages of his life. He has bowel cancer with lung and liver mets. He was diagnosed in august 2018 and initially the prognosis was good, although he'd had to have an ileostomy which he had a lot of issues with. He had 25 cycles of radiotherapy and 12 weeks of chemotherapy, which they thought would have good results, he was really fit and healthy at the start of the treatment. He was great when he had the scan after that, was expecting to have a resection and reversal of the ileostomy. We were devastated to be told that the cancer had spread to lungs and liver, and prognosis was 6-12 mpmths. He's persevered though another 3 cycles of chemotherapy that has decimated him, but has developed sepsis and an infection which is not going away. He's on lifelong antibiotics, blood thinners for a portal vein thrombosis, dexamethozone to give him some energy. I know he's at the end of his life, he's been referred to the hospice, and they're brilliant, but he's not accepting that he's at the end of life. He's very bitter about his original diagnosis because he feels he should have been referred earlier although the oncologist said his cancer if very aggressive and it probably wouldn't have made much difference. He doesn't want to die , and I can understand that, but I don't know how to help him. He veer angry and bitter, and taking it out on me a bit , which I can deal with, although I disappear for a bit for a cry now and again. How can I help him to accept that he's at the end of his life life without him thinking I want it to be the end of his life? If I could do this for him I would, I hate the pain he is going through. What can I say to him?
