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My dad has advanced prostrate cancer

michelle-83
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My dad was diagnosed with cancer this time last year, it's very aggressive and he's now stage 4, his psa levels were in the low hundreds but mum had a call to say that his level is now 1175. Its not good news, he's had 2 rounds of radiotherapy as he's to far advanced for anymore, that's stopped working now, he was on hormone treatment and that's stopped working now too. He's also now got the cancer in the lymph nodes but also has it in the pelvis,shoulders,prostrate, bones, spine, he's finding it very difficult to walk, he also keeps falling over, he's got an electric chair to help him get up, a zimmer frame to help him really(he won't use it as too proud)a wheelchair to use when out side, the palliative cage team are coming to assess my dad, I don't know how much longer he has a no medication is working now, he's also very tired and feels the cold very easily. 

  • Hello Michelle-83

    I'm sorry to hear that you're still feeling very concerned about your Dad's prognosis. It's good to know that the palliative care team are coming to meet him. Hopefully they will be able to offer some support and make sure that he is comfortable. 

    I know that Moderator Lucie gave you the details for our nurse helpline last time you posted and if you've not already done so then I'd encourage you to give them a call. It really can help to talk things through with someone who is not directly connected to your situation. If you'd like to speak to them they are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
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    Hello Michelle

    I'm sorry to hear about your dad's prostate cancer. My dad is in almost the same situation. He has stage 4 terminal prostate cancer.  his first PSA level was 1207 but it's gone down with hormone treatment. He has cancer in the lymph nodes, pelvis,  prostate, spine and bones. He hasn't fallen over yet but sometimes loses the use of his left leg. I am in the process of moving house so I can take care of him

     

    my thoughts are with you

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    Thank you, none of my dad's treatments are working now. 

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    I know it must be so hard Michelle.  My dad was only diagnosed 2 months ago.  How old is your dad?  My dad is 73. 

  • Offline in reply to Paulajean

    Hi, my dad has also been diagnosed with prostate cancer. He is 76. He lives abroad and doesn't like to talk about it so I feel very in the dark about what is happening. I know that he's on hormone injections and has had bone scans and an MRI scan. He has received some results but my mum and him are not really giving me much information. However, my mum has intimated that it has spread but that we must wait for more information. 
     

    After asking her to find out more, she did manage to read one of his letters and his Gleason score is 9 which is very high. Also, there is the added complication of him going to appointments on his own due to covid and not being completely fluent in the language of the country where he lives. I'm really not sure what I can do to help - I suppose there is nothing apart from respecting his need to control what he tells me and when. But I feel heartbroken, and since I found out about his diagnosis I can't ever imagine feeling happy again .

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