Hi,

I have recently had an a really unexpected borderline Pap test with high risk hpv .

i have been with my partner in a loving/caring relationship for 14years and we have two children together and have no reason to believe he has been unfaithful.

i had a small piece of my cervix removed in my early thirties and since then all my Pap tests were clear up until now.

I also had an anal Pap test as my partner and I had experienced unconventional sex once and I was concerned.

The test was positive for the same strain and I have now been referred for a protoscopy which is like a colposcopy for the anus.

i am also full of fear about the possibility of tongue and throat cancers developing .

Mainly I worry about my partner as I feel the infection probably came from my side.

i feel terrible about the possibility of him developing a throat or pensile cancer, I know there is no screening for these and men are at a higher risk of getting throat cancer.

I have mentioned to him that I had high risk hpv but have left out the risks it implies for him and feel I really need to speak to him properly so he can put some regular health checks in place.

I have also read that it is unlikely that a woman my age can clear/suppress the infection and that the longer the infection is present the higher the chance of cancer occurring.

I also wonder whether it is harder to shift the infection in a long relationship as the virus is constantly being exchanged?

If anyone has experienced anything similar and can offer any advice or hope I would be so grateful to hear it.

It all feels pretty bleak at the moment and my usual fighting spirit is nowhere to be found.

thank you so much.