Help? Advice? Reassurance?

Good morning,

I am 44 years old and my husband died a month ago from a surprising diagnosis last year of stage 4 Colin cancer that had already spread to his liver,lungs and bones. When covid began oncology shut its doors and treatment to prolong his life stopped, he died last month and so my faith in my g.p etc is minimal.

I have noticed a lump in my throat ( mid front looks like a small Adams apple)  last night. About 1cm, painless and doesn't move. Spoke with g.p this morning who tells me on the phone to keep an eye on it for a few weeks. Hmmm. Doesn't want to check it although I have neutropenia and awaiting haematolgist appointment to find out why. My 8 year old and I are devestated by my husband's death ( he thinks I'm going to die) and now I'm worried about a lump. Any advice appreciated. 

  • Hello mrsnixx, 

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. I am really sorry to hear about your husband - sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. It must be really difficult for you and your little one to cope after going through all this. It sounds like you had a bad experience recently too in light of the covid situation and that this has deeply affected you and shaken your trust in your GP. Your poor little one being constantly worried that his mummy is going to die. I think it might be worth talking to your doctor about how your 8 year old has been affected by all this recently. We have a useful information page on our website about talking to children about cancer which you can find here and which I hope will be helpful to you. 

    Perhaps you could try and get a second opinion just to give you peace of mind? You can find out more about this on this page. You could mention to the doctor that it would give you enormous reassurance to have this lump checked as soon as possible. 

    I hope you get this looked at soon so you can feel reassured. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator