Hello Hilly1

I had stage 3 grade 3 triple negative and positive lymph nodes for cancer too.

Always thought breast cancer was just one type until now.

Had 6 cycles of chemo EC 3 doxcetexel 3 had operation now supposed to be having radiotherapy,then MRI and mammogram every 6 months for ten years.

First time I've really spoken about it, just have not had anyone to talk about it to.

Don't know you Hilly1 but you seem a caring person and thank you for that flower ♥️

Hi Laney_
 

oh my gosh you have really been through it, it must of been so hard going through that by yourself,I really feel for you, you are such a strong person.

I believe that the radiotherapy is the easiest part and especially after everything you have gone through, after the radiotherapy then you can stick your two fingers up to everyone and say I did this by myself for myself , up yours :) 

Hilly1

Morning Hilly1

You have also been through it too and still having to have radiotherapy too.

Your right if I do have the radiotherapy , after I could stick two fingers up to everyone.

Friends or so called friends say we are in it with you like sugar they are.

Never had friends so heartless that's what I can't seem to understand,one that I've been there for when she was ill for 18 months day in day out.

Don't want symphony from them because I'm not that kind of person, just don't understand them.

When you ask I haven't got time will ring later and you know for a fact they won't.

Never mind.

Really hope your radiotherapy goes well for you flower ♥️ xx

I am going back to work for 10 day then take the boat to Southampton for the radiotherapy for 3 weeks , but I will alway be hear for you, when I am working will get back to you in the evening but your not on your own . I am quite nervous the dr told me I might get very tired or not, the skin might get sore but it will get better, I will let you know xx

Hello Laney_,

                      being a cancer patient can be a very lonely place,and all too easy to withdraw back into yourself.You find yourself on an elevated level of anxiety and struggle to understand those around you acting like normal,like nothing has changed.You put this down to indifference,whilst they are trying not to pass their true feelings on,so as not to stress you.There is also a natural response from others to distance themselves from painful situations,

Macmillan nurses are like firefighters in a wildfire situation,they are increasingly stretched,high on demand,struggling for resources,and increasingly focused on a well established blaze rather than a commencing smoulder.

Maggies centres are like an oasis of calm serenity in a sea of searing heat and destruction.In contrast to Macmillan,they very much have the time for empathy and understanding,translating that wonderfully to those that step across their threshold.

The difference between the two is that former comes to you,the latter needs you to go to them in order for them to help you make a tremendous difference to your future positivity and outcome.They do not do it for you,but very much help you do it for yourself and allow you to help the others that surround you in a similar dire situations.

l could fill a book and more with everything you stand to gain from visiting,but would struggle with the words to do it justice,suffice to say that it played a large part in my own personal survival and subsequent recovery.

You talk about making your decision concerning treatment, why not see if you have a maggies centre near you and pay it a visit as part of that process,its there for all sufferers at all stages of their journey.

  just planting a seed in the hope that you can harvest the crop,

                                                                                                  David

Afternoon gruntien

Thank you for your reply,yes I was assigned a McMillan nurse when I was diagnosed with cancer  tried on a numerus occasion's but to no avail.

I have heard of Maggie's but I've never been in.

Just so upset at the moment .

Thank you again for your reply

Laney

Hi Hilly1

It's so nice to hear from you it really is.

Went to see the oncologist the other day and she gave me a examination and she found a lump just below my collarbone,so now I have to have a biopsy on Thursday 24th September.

When I asked what it was her face said it all,but she said let's wait and see.

They want me to start radiotherapy next Friday too on my breast.To see radiologist on Tuesday about what they are going to do treatment wise.

Emotionally they (oncologist) have said that the lack of support from family and friends is not helping,but what can I do?you can't make people do things obviously they don't want to do.

My medical team can only support me from a point,but they can't believe what is going on, because they have noticed nobody attends any appointments with me.

Like my consultant said I'm not going to get through this if I haven't got the support........ and I don't think I will some how.Not feeling pessimist it's fact,but I try and feel optimistic and then you it a brick wall.

How are you going on? because you must be going through it also with what you had  I remember you are going back to work and I hope you are up to going back too,then you start yours radiotherapy soon too and you must be feeling anxious too.

It is lovely ️ to hear from you ️ it really is.

Take care flower ♥️

Love and hugs

Laney

Hi Laney_ 

How are you, I had my first session yesterday, apart from a few technical problems which held up my session, it all went well, i felt like I was in a Star Wars film with stars in the ceiling and green lights etc, it was ok, I will keep you informed how it going.

More to the point how are you doing, have you been able to get any support .

sorry I have been off grid for awhile xxxx