Hi Peter

I am so sorry for your loss.  As a care worker, I often work with people who have been left behind as a result of cancer.

I understand that you must be in a really bad place at the moment, you have spent a very long time with your wife and no doubt made many happy memories.  Try to cherish them and take each day one at a time.  You will no doubt have many bad days, losing someone you love so much can make every day be a bad day. I promise that one day you will wake up and it will be that little bit easier/better than the day before.  Try and give yourself a new thing to do each day, something to achieve.  Set yourself targets and try to keep busy.  
 

look after yourself and never be afraid to ask your friends for help when you need it.

Sarah x

Hi Peter,

I was on the site replying to someone and noticed your post - I just wanted to express my deepest sympathy on the loss of your wife Gill. 
 

I lost my first child and I can keenly remember the way grief feels completely overwhelming, along with the desire to go and be with the one you have lost. My advice would be to find some small and enjoyable in each day (a book, sitting in your garden or conversation with a friend), hold on to these moments and sit with your precious memories.

All the best,

Claire x