Hi Pinkstar,

A very warm welcome to our forum. I am so sorry to hear about your Mum's diagnosis. Do you know what type and grade of breast cancer she has? This is what usually dictates the type of treatment she is likely to have after surgery.

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 11 years and, lost my own Mum to breast cancer 21 years ago. First time around I had a lumpectomy, but a year later I had a double mastectomy. I had a small 'love heart' shaped pillow to place under my arms, which I found a great help after surgery, especially for sleeping. I also found it helpful to have nightwear and daytime clothing that opened at the front, as it was difficult to lift clothes over my head.

I am glad to hear that your Mum is coping so well. My own Mum was absolutely terrified and, I suspect that, deep down, your own Mum will be too.This will be a hard road, but just give your Mum all the love and support that you can. I know that it is difficult to accompany her to any of her appointments at present, but if you can get to any of them, she will find this a great help.

It is difficult to remain strong for her, but the more positive you can be about her outlook, the better she'll cope with treatment. I found that there were a number of care needs that were overlooked when my Mum was in hospital. Just remain eagle eyed and, don't be afraid to ask staff for anything that you think she may need.

Fear of the unknown is always a difficult emotion to deal with. It becomes easier as treatment starts and, she know what is happening. It is always helpful to draw up a list of questions for her care team before any appointment. This ensures us that nothing is left unsaid or forgotten at a consultation.

Breast Cancer Care do a series of booklets which outline surgery, tests, treatments, understanding your pathology results, Osteoporosis and Breast Cancer treatment. You can order these on-line, but most hospitals have a supply of these too.

I am sure that your Mum will get through her surgery without too much bother. She will be a little sore for a short while after surgery, and may have a drain inserted for a short time. This is to reduce post-op swelling. However, it is all quite 'doable'.

Do please feel free to ask any questions you may have. We are always here for you both.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx