Dear Kerry what a horrible time you have had and to lose your Mum as well is too awful and I'm not surprised you feel so low.  I was 36 years old when I had a full hysterectomy and this was due to severe endometriosis which I'd been left to suffer with for years, my daughters were six and eleven years old and like you no one helped me after, it wasn't until I broke my wrist five years later that I was told I had lost bone density and should have been put on HRT, so check that out, it helped me a lot.  We have to be pro active in getting what we want so ask to see a lady GP and get this sorted.  Pain wise I would say that it took me at least a year to feel less pain and soreness, apparently everything has to settle back into place after major surgery.  Don't be hard on yourself, your sex drive will return when you aren't grieving for lost body parts, the fear of cancer and the death of your Mum, I'm sure your partner will understand this.  Just get through each day without pushing yourself too hard, take help if you can and ask others to help.  As each day passes you will find it gets a little easier.  Good luck with your recovery.  Carol x 

I'm 46 and had a radical hysterectomy in June 2020 and like you no visitors or help. I had an MRI in sep but I had to push tor this follow up. I was due a smear now but delayed due to covid. I didn't struggle emotionally straight away but it all hit me a few months on and I am now on HRT which helps but I've also put on a stone in weight which effects my self esteem. I'm so sorry you've gone through such a hard time as well as loosing your mum. Ask any questions you need x

Thank you Carol for your kind words.

Oh Kerry, I'm so pleased you pushed for the MRI and I'm wishing you the best, my smear has been put off fir a further 3 months which checks for residue vaginal cells so with the delay just hoping all ok. I've just spoken to my consultant on the phone  for my review and he thinks unlikely as they also took all lymph nodes and MRI clear so hope the same for you. I think we ladies underestimate the impact of this! My consultant has swapped me from tablet HRT to patches and it doesn't get stored in the liver like tablets so shouldn't have so much weight gain. Which form are you on? He also said impact of limited mobility and lockdown Xmas has prevented usual movement and excercise x

Im on tablet form of HRT, its recently been changed because I was getting awlful side effects from the previous ones. I didnt realise you could have patches, thats definitely something I will speak to the doctor about. I also didn't realise you needed another smear after a radical hysterectomy, the only check I've had since the op was my consultant checking I didnt have a prolapse.