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Husband about to start Chemo following bowel cancer surgery

Scottygran
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Hi

i am new to this forum. My husband had  a bowel resection in March  this year after a routine bowel cancer screening test proved positive. He has recovered relatively well but because it has spread to lymph node now is about to start chemo, this was a shock to both of us & I have tried to stay strong for him not showing him how worried & upset I am  at times. With all that is going on with Coronavirus, lock down, self isolation & not seeing my daughter & grandkids I had a bit of a meltdown in front of him today. I was so angry with myself. I don't have anyone to talk to about things so keep my feelings bottled up. I read some comments on this forum & was encouraged to see I am not alone, although at times it feels like it,  I joined this forum as a way of keeping myself sane by hearing how others cope.

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    Hello Scottygran

    My partner went through this 10 years ago. We wasn't expecting him to need chemo either but it had spread to lymph nodes. It wasn't easy but he had great support and did exactly what he was told. As his partner though i felt quite lonely through the treatment especially as the fatigue set in and I spent more and more time on my own. You are entitled to a meltdown and I'm sure he understands that. It is even more difficult in these strange times. Dont be too hard on yourself. You will need support to. Wishing you all the very best.

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    Hi Sumerdear

    Thank you for your reply. It is encouraging to know your husband has come through this. My husband has been offer the 12 week course that included a combination of IV & pills. It is shorted but stronger than the usual 24 weeks IV only course. I keep myself positive by knowing that by Mid August he will be finished the treatment. I am generally a string person, so using this forum will keep me on track I am sure. X

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