Hi from Banjos & a Yellow Suitcase

Just came on here to say hi. I've been scrolling through forums over the last few years and thoughth I should actually get involved rather than look from the sidelines.

I'm 22 and my dad was diagnosed with incurable and inoperable lung cancer in 2018 after a bout of pleurisy the previous summer. He's been having chemo every 3 weeks for 2 years.  A few weeks ago on Mother's Day he had a seizure and then doctors found 2 tumours in his brain and some small ones lurking about as well. The Consultant who is so lovely and amazing was really shocked to see it had spread as there was no other indication.

Mum taken it all so well up until now, but she's finding it hard now that he's a totally different person with another personality. It's as if he's turned slightly autistic overnight. Does anyone else find this? Don't know if it's caused by the tumour or the radiotherapy? 

Staying positive, watching lots of Disney Plus and Marvel and listening to lots of happy music and country songs. Making memories and hoping to make him smile every day.

  • A warm welcome to Cancer Chat banjoandayellowsuitcase!

    This must be such a tough time for you and it must have been a real shock that he had a seizure on Mother's Day and that the doctors subsequently found 2 tumours in his brain. It must be really hard as well for your mum to have to deal with these sudden personality changes. I hope that you will hear from others who have had a similar experience and that they will be along shortly to share their story with you. 

    Our nurses are also available on this free number 0808 800 4040 - their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm so don't hesitate to give them a call if you wish to discuss this with them. 

    It's great you are managing to stay positive despite all this and watching lots of Disney Plus and Marvel, listening to happy music and country songs are all good strategies at the moment to help you cope with everything that is going on. Keep making memories and trying to make him smile every day during these precious moments you are spending together. 

    We're all thinking of you during these difficult times. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator