Terrified

Hi I never thought I'd be a member of this foram I suddenly have burning a big lump hard skin on around my nipple and size changes ..all the tick tick signs . I'm prepared but I know this sounds silly but I just can't tell my kids or close friends as I can't handle dealing with the reaction .  How can I give them news that will hurt them ..I know your all going to say tell someone .. but for my own mental health I just can't .. does anyone else feel the same ? 

I'm single 

Have no parents or siblings 

Have 2 grown boys 

I know it's going to be bad news but like I said I have prepared e en looking at sorting fi ances I'm so practical lol to the point of already decided to have a double mastectomy and looking forward to sgavo g my hair off .  I believe it's a mind set I'm tryi g to take some control and deal with it as no point crying and getting depressed as that is a downwould spiral but if I just deal with the situation as it happens in a positive way ..

Can I also ask I have had pain in the top middle part of my arm like a pain to the Bone and nausea has anyone else had this ? Xx

 

  • Hello PositivePolly,

                                  l am very sorry to read of your stress and anxieties.We all react differently and really what works for you is the correct way,so long as you do not lose sight of the possible need to change tack in the future if required.

                                     l assume the one person you have told is your doctor,and you have started the journey towards the discovery of a definitive diagnosis.When you have this, at that point you may wish to share with others what you are going through.

    All the contributors on this forum will have faced similar issues as you are currently experiencing and will have a wealth of understanding as too how you are feeling,and are well placed to offer comfort and advice,and will no doubt respond to your post.

    All l can add is that many of us get through to the other side so please do not go jumping to the worst case scenario too quickly,being prepared is not the same as being convinced.

     Good luck and l hope your news in future is all positive,

                                                                                              David

  • Wow thankyou . X yes I have seen my doctor the very next day I got the letter as was expecting a call but the day after that I got the consultant s appointment for mamogram and potential biopsy.

    This forham is going to be a lifeline for me as I don't have a large group of friends and no extended family, 

    The thought of putting fear and worry onto my boys is worse then the potential cancer.

    But thankyou so much for the reply  

    Xxx

  • Hi

    You don't say in your post if you have seen your GP.

    You sound terrified and are envisaging the worst case scenario. If not alredy please contact GP, they still want to speak to patients despite corona and let us know.

    Please don't google, from personal experience, that just makes things worse.

     

     

  • Sorry I put it in my profile x yes saw my GP 4 days ago the very next day I got a letter to say I'll be receiving a call to book an appointment but the next day after that I received a letter from the consultant with a date to see me ( 21st)   

    My breast is getting worse daily the lump is large and I feel a burning and pulling sensation, also hard rough skin around my Arora and my nipple is pointing towards the lump my breast is also larger, I'm very busty anyway but it's noticable and my doctor agreed .

    I have put  an icepack on and taken paracetamol. But it hurts like it's hot inside but not to the touch. 

    X thankyou for your advice my lovely I'm not googling I just know as went through this journey with a boyfriend's sister so I'm aware of symptoms . Hope you are on the road to recovery x

  • Sorry my bad for not seeing your info.

    Can you contact your GP regarding the new symptoms and pain? desite corona, they still talk to people.

    Pls let us know how you get on

  • Bless you x I will be ri going them on Tuesday but the icepack / pees in a scarf lol are working x

    Will do and thankyou so much for you message xx

  • [@Positivepolly]‍ 

    You are welcome, glad ice is working

  • [@Positivepolly]‍ 

    How did you get on with your GP

  • I have a biopsy and scan in the 21sr it's weird as I had so much burning pulling pain just before me period then it stopped ..I know we all get tender boobs towards period time but thus was off the chart . It's strange I see it as my body telling me something isn't right .

    Strangely I'm so calm about it not emotional but practical I'm surprising myself . I'll post after the 21st I hope your ok ? And thankyou for asking xxxxx

  • @positivepolly1963Sounds sounds like progress people's informed after the 21st and in the meantime hope pain and discomfort is minimal.