I'm not a mod, I just thought I would stop by and welcome you.

Greetings.

Sorry to hear about your wife, that must be a real shock.

Hopefully, in your area, biopsies are done quick. They are here.

I rely on transport as I don't have my own, my kind surgery gave me an online booking form and the hospital offered me a biopsy the next day, but I needed time to arrange transport so they offered me the next one 6 days later (yesterday)

Meanwhile I can understand your anxiety, especially as you have been married for less than a year (BIG hugs) 

I hope that the condition can be gotten rid of by whatever treatment is needed, like the lady with bowel cancer which had spread, and is now cancer free, see this post for inspiration 

www.cancerresearchuk.org/.../my-journey-with-bowel-cancer

While I hope this does not sound trite, or pessimistic, please make your anniverary a special day, and I hope your wife is as lucky as the lady in the above post, and you have many more happy anniversaries to come.

Thanks for the reply.

Hopefully things will happen fairly quickly, tho' with the upcoming bank holiday who knows.

I didn't mention in my first post that this isn't the first time that I have been affected by cancer in the first year of marriage - my first wife found out she had a DCIS about 6 weeks after we got married; ended up with her coming out of hospital 2 days before christmas after having had a radical mastectomy.

There is more to this story tho' - she had felt a lump about 3 months before we had got married but had not said anything as she didn't want to spoil/stop the wedding. Looking back she was not a nice person, but I wish her well wherever she is.

You are welcome

Please take comfort in the fact that there are only 2 bank holidays, good Friday and Easter Monday.

I am sooooooooooo sorry your first wife found out she had a DCIS about 6 weeks after you wed, and ended up with her coming out of hospital 2 days before christmas after having had a radical mastectomy.

I am sorry she was not a nice person. I am glad you are with a nice person now, and I reiterate, I hope this anniversary is as special as possible, and you have many more. Did the stage 4 bowel cancer survivor's post inspire you?

Yes, the post did inspire.

Thanks.

Right, time to set some long & short term goals.

Peace & love to all

OK everyone, an update.

Friday evening, Jen was really unwell - looking VERY jaundiced, temperature all over the place, and delirious. As a result, she was admitted to hospital where she was diagnosed with an infection (not sure where), which was causing low blood pressure

She was treated with antibiotics.

However, the message got back to me that should she recover from this episode and be strong enough tho undergo any chemo, then it would only be a controlling measure and not a cure as the mass is just too extensive now.

The worse part is the DNR form that has been completed should things deteriorate.

Things are just a blur now

Mark

OK, so things went downhill very quickly in the last 24 hours.

I had a call from the ward at about 2pm to say that Jen was not very well at all. I went to visit and during the visit, I spoke to the Dr looking after her.

He told me that the plan was to transfer her to another ward where they would drain some of the fluid that had built up in her abdomen.

I came home to get a bite to eat, and about an hour later received a phone call from the hospital asking me to come in as she had gone downhill rapidly, and that she probably had hours left.

Jen passed 30 minutes after I arrived on the ward.

RIP to a Beautiful, Funny, Intelligent, Clever and above all Lovely lady.

it was a privelige to have had you in my life.

Mark XXX