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Coping with my mother in law

Helen32
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Hello, 

Sadly we received the news yesterday that my mother in law has terminal ovarian cancer, she beat breast cancer 2 years aga.

Only in november did we lose my father in law to lung cancer. 

My husband is coping extremly well, hes very calm and understanding and sees things as they are. He says we need to trust everyone helping her and enjoy whatever time we have.

I'm not coping! Im very close to her ans become even closer since november. We speak every day sometimes several, Im constantly crying, wondering what else I can do to help her through this, plus help my husband as I know at some point this will hit him.

She is obviously heartbroken  and said if it wasnt for covid at the moment she may handle it better if we could just have a hug. 

Thank you for letting me write this, feel I needed to say something to someone! 

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    Hello Helen, 

    Sorry that you have had to join us with this dreadful disease. I really do understand your pain. I have mentioned on here that my husband is terminally ill and having some chemo to extend his life possibly, we live in hope. However what I don't talk about is that my 16 tear old granddaughter also has blood cancer and is An hour away and we have had isolation periods before the virus due to colds coughs etc. My heart aches that I can't go and hug her, we text back and to regularly, health allowing as the chemo has really attacked her bones and pancreas. So, I really feel your pain, nothing else I can do for you except send you love and virtual hugs. Christine xxxx

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    Hi Christine, 

     

    Thank you for message and kind words. It truly means alot go know that just writing a few words, people are there. 

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband and granddaughter. 

    Not being able to hug them and show how much you care. 

    You sound a very strong woman to be going through this, hopefully when the horrid isolation period is over you can both have the time to see her and likewise your husband gets time too. 

    My heart is with you too at this time, likewise I send love and virtual hugs at this difficult time. 

    Helen xxx

  • Offline in reply to Thebearssweetie

    Hi there ..

    Just wanted to say .. I'm in same position as you .. my granddaughter who's just 18 has acute myeloid leukaemia and is up London at cancer hospital for her second round of chemo .. how I wish I could stay with her .. but only one a time now .. 

    And other two small grandkids.. oh my all l can say is my arms ache to hold them ... but can do video link .. so hold on in there .. from one nan to another .. and one Christine to another too .. x

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