Hi just joined trying to stay positive . Really hard

HI, 

I needed to post to explain the up and down emotions after my partners difficult last six months. It started on holiday last September when he was diagnosed with appendicitis and had an emergency appendectomy.

on returning home he has had a couple of attacks that have left him in hospital for a couple of weeks, with symptoms of the removed appendix. CT scan was performed which showed a mass near the caecum /appendix area. 

Colonoscopy performed yesterday and a 3-4 cm tumour found in caecum. Doctor took 10 biopsies , he couldn’t obviously say it was cancer but told my partner that it could be. My partner had a colonoscopy 2 and a half years ago which showed one polyp which was removed from a different area. 

This has come as a big shock to firstly my partner and me. It’s going to be a long two weeks before the results  and the temptation to look on google is so much. 

It has hit us both like bricks. Just wondered if anyone could give me some advice so I can stay positive for him. I feel so guilty for feeling low 

  • Hi Ladyf1966,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat. Firstly I'm sorry to read about your worries and what's going on at the moment with you and your partner. How you're feeling is of course perfectly understandable and you shouldn't feel at all guilty for feeling low. It's natural to feel a mix of emotions in situations like this, and the uncertainty is never easy to deal with.

    Nothing is certain at this stage so try to take things one day at a time. While waiting for results some people say it helps to keep busy and distracted, to keep your mind off things. In the meantime do try not to look on Google, as the information is rarely helpful or relevant, and is often outdated.

    Use this forum as much as you'd like at any point for any support - it's a very welcoming and understanding community.

    I hope it's not too long for you to wait for the results.

    Wishing you all the best,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator