Hi,

Im in exactly the same boat as you......dad recently diagnosed, he's my hero, can't imagine life without him and worried for my mum too........ My dad is 68, usually fit and healthy with no symptoms beforehand other than a shadow in his eye.....which he went to the opticians about and it's all stemmed from there...Im 43...... Im new to this too but here if you want to chat x

Hey, this has just made me realise the last year for me has been a blur, the emotions you are going through are normal, not in any particular order they come from no where when they want! I'm 33, and a year ago my wonderful dad was diagnosed with bowel cancer, he refused treatment and never told us how bad it was. He still worked everyday, run around with the kids and was the biggest kid himself lol.

i spent the last year living normally, carrying on as if he would be here forever because he didn't behave like "a sick man", sometimes I even forgot he was ill, which was probably me avoiding the future, which sadly has become my reality, he made it a week over his given time frame, and deteriorated in 3 days I never expected any of it! The only advice I can give you from my experience is embrace everything with him, as much as it can be upsetting cherish every moment because I crave for one more phone call and hug. The situation becomes very real, and it is hard and I'm still very struggling but talking, and writing is kinda getting me through the days.

big loves to you x

Hiya,

I can completley sympathise with how you're feeling. I'm only 25 and my mum has just been diagnosed with cancer. It's really makes you put life into perspective and makes you wish you never took anything for granted. I can't imagine life without my mum and I don't want to imagine it. 

i'm holding onto the fact that cancer is such a common disease and there are so many treatment options. I'm sure your dad will come out the other side, like my mum (fingers crossed)

The only thing we can do is stay positive for their own sake and ours.

xx