Hi,

I really hope somebody can give me some advice please.

My dad has late stage 4 stomach cancer, has spread to liver and adrenal glands but what I would really like to find out is if there is a service where my A) My mom, as sole carer, can get some support and is there any sort of counselling where he can vent or talk through his fears?

My dad is a fiercely indedendent 'man's man' who does not discuss feelings easily. He is becoming more and more confused due to what has been explained as chemo fog but after finishing his second round of chemo a couple of weeks ago and finishing his chemo tablets seems to have become worse.

He is angry at my mom all the time. He shouts, puts her down and is actually scaring her sometimes.

My sister and I are there as much as we can be (daily) but just don't know where to turn now.

My mom needs help, my dad is a time bomb. They have been married 50 years this june. They have always been so in love and we want this borrowed time that they have to be special instead of the daily trauma that it is becoming.

My dad is 77 and my mom is 74. They have always done everything together and my dad is one of the nicest and most gentlemanly men I have ever met.

I just want to help them remember that they are still in love and to get them both the help they need to enjoy the time that they have left.

32 months is the longest anyone with this particular cancer has survived...we are at that stage and he can still change a set of brakes on a car...he has always been a mechanic. Can't find his tin of hairspray or remember the name of a certain pub but show him an engine and he will strip it and rebuild it!

Love my parents to the limit so any help is much appreciated x